DestinedToBeAPotato
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11 Feb 2016, 12:04 pm
EzraS wrote:
DestinedToBeAPotato wrote:
I now understand why you guys said those things in those threads. And I don't blame you guys for your frustrations.
Thank you! I really did not think it was that hard to understand. Must be some weird generation thing were some just do not get it at all.
No problem.
I now understand why you guys specifically have made these posts. There have been others, however, who haven't been so nice with expressing their frustrations. 
11 Feb 2016, 2:52 pm
DestinedToBeAPotato wrote:
EzraS wrote:
When it comes to what sometimes seems an easier time, in my case at least I see autism robbing me of a future. That 20 years from now everything will be the same for me. No career, no home of my own, no getting in my car to go somewhere, no spouse, no kids, no future.
And then someone posts something that sounds like.... "After getting off work from my dream job, I picked up my beautiful kids in my awesome car and drove to my dream home where my loving supportive spouse of 20 years....".
Now I know that is a huge over exaggeration. But sometimes it feels that way. Call it teenage angst on a whole other level.
Oh wait, isn't this what someone called me having a pity party?
And then someone posts something that sounds like.... "After getting off work from my dream job, I picked up my beautiful kids in my awesome car and drove to my dream home where my loving supportive spouse of 20 years....".
Now I know that is a huge over exaggeration. But sometimes it feels that way. Call it teenage angst on a whole other level.
Oh wait, isn't this what someone called me having a pity party?
I now understand why you guys said those things in those threads. And I don't blame you guys for your frustrations.
I have had the same issue for a long while. I was actually really depressed for a while because I felt that my life was over because of my autism. I can't do anything in my own - well, I can't do anything properly. I constantly wonder how am I going to survive in this world if I can't do anything... I am constantly worrying about the future, I feel robbed of the opportunity to lead a normal life. :/
Somewhere in another post, an older member wrote to a younger one, "You are young, Grasshopper." I think that applies here. Autism tends to predispose a person to greater anxiety than the general population. Sometimes I wish I had known sooner that I had it; sometimes I think it's good I didn't know. I just jumped into the adult world at age 17--graduated high school, got a job, got married a yr later. It was sink or swim. Sometimes I swam, sometimes I doggie paddled, sometimes I sank like someone tied a rock to my foot. I'm still here.
I am not making light of your limitations and challenges. But I don't think it's totally accurate to say, as a teenager, that autism robs you of a future. It will make some things more challenging, but in and of itself autism cannot rob you of a future. Look at those of us who do function in a (somewhat
) adult capacity. I do have a hubby and kids and a job...but none of it perfect. All of us are doing the best we can with what we have, I think. And you youngsters will too, sometime. Adulthood and all its joys and responsibilities will come in time. And the things you have more difficulty with...you will find a way to cope, or do without them. None of us can have it all. Maybe some things in your lives won't be totally "normal"...but maybe some things will be even better. "Normal" people have struggles too.As I said, not making light of your frustrations but trying to put a brighter spin on your future for you.
DestinedToBeAPotato
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11 Feb 2016, 4:40 pm
probly.an.aspie wrote:
DestinedToBeAPotato wrote:
EzraS wrote:
When it comes to what sometimes seems an easier time, in my case at least I see autism robbing me of a future. That 20 years from now everything will be the same for me. No career, no home of my own, no getting in my car to go somewhere, no spouse, no kids, no future.
And then someone posts something that sounds like.... "After getting off work from my dream job, I picked up my beautiful kids in my awesome car and drove to my dream home where my loving supportive spouse of 20 years....".
Now I know that is a huge over exaggeration. But sometimes it feels that way. Call it teenage angst on a whole other level.
Oh wait, isn't this what someone called me having a pity party?
And then someone posts something that sounds like.... "After getting off work from my dream job, I picked up my beautiful kids in my awesome car and drove to my dream home where my loving supportive spouse of 20 years....".
Now I know that is a huge over exaggeration. But sometimes it feels that way. Call it teenage angst on a whole other level.
Oh wait, isn't this what someone called me having a pity party?
I now understand why you guys said those things in those threads. And I don't blame you guys for your frustrations.
I have had the same issue for a long while. I was actually really depressed for a while because I felt that my life was over because of my autism. I can't do anything in my own - well, I can't do anything properly. I constantly wonder how am I going to survive in this world if I can't do anything... I am constantly worrying about the future, I feel robbed of the opportunity to lead a normal life. :/
Somewhere in another post, an older member wrote to a younger one, "You are young, Grasshopper." I think that applies here. Autism tends to predispose a person to greater anxiety than the general population. Sometimes I wish I had known sooner that I had it; sometimes I think it's good I didn't know. I just jumped into the adult world at age 17--graduated high school, got a job, got married a yr later. It was sink or swim. Sometimes I swam, sometimes I doggie paddled, sometimes I sank like someone tied a rock to my foot. I'm still here.
I am not making light of your limitations and challenges. But I don't think it's totally accurate to say, as a teenager, that autism robs you of a future. It will make some things more challenging, but in and of itself autism cannot rob you of a future. Look at those of us who do function in a (somewhat
) adult capacity. I do have a hubby and kids and a job...but none of it perfect. All of us are doing the best we can with what we have, I think. And you youngsters will too, sometime. Adulthood and all its joys and responsibilities will come in time. And the things you have more difficulty with...you will find a way to cope, or do without them. None of us can have it all. Maybe some things in your lives won't be totally "normal"...but maybe some things will be even better. "Normal" people have struggles too.As I said, not making light of your frustrations but trying to put a brighter spin on your future for you.
Thanks for the kind words.
I guess I am only a teenager. I have yet to fully experience things, so I can't be too sure that I won't be able to achieve something!
