What will i do when my dad dies?

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Another trick I use to sneak up on myself is set the alarm on my mobile phone for 15 minutes, then do ANY housework related activity for that time, then make myself stop. If i get in one hour total housework done in a day I count it a triumph.

My problem has been that I can get my house absolutely clean and tidy in a couple of days - then there is 3 months of nothing at all. Big problems establishing routines. Only just learnt to wash regularly enough at 59 years old.

My problem is that I have a very strong desire to be awake in the mornings. I prefer mornings, actually. But my body clock is very off. And I have quite severe insomnia. I can be awake for days with not a single minute of sleep.

I can't just decide not to sleep, and then go to bed early that night. Because then I will just not sleep at all. Being without sleep actually causes me to become hyperactive.

Is it possible to get into either a Regional center or Dept of Rehabilitation facility? They can send you to other programs that can help be independent. Agree that you should have your father do some household chores so you can do them by yourself eventually.

Eventually you should have a discussion of the trust/or will and get the deed to the house. Finally set a budget now so you know how much you will spend in a year.

By deed to the house you mean my fathers house?

my father and i are both homeless, i live in my grandfathers garage and my dad lives in a shack he built himself on my grandfathers property which does not have running water or plumbing.

Is your father getting your grandfather house upon his death? I assume he is? I don't know the whole family setup? All three of you should have a talk about the house when your grandfather passes or whether he is thinking of selling after his death.

We all live on a first nations reserve, the rules work like this: no one owns any houses if a house is vacant, you can live in it. Besides my father isn't an only child, he has 4 sisters, one sisiter is adopted and only 15 years old.

If i want a house on the reserve, i need to ask the chief and right now the chief isnt giving anyone houses...ESPECIALLY anyone in my family.

you see on this reserve there are two familys, the Simons, and the Sanipasses(my family) we are distantly related but we HATE each other and the chief is a simon so she will give all her family paved driveways and new decks but she wont even give me, any of my cousins, or my great aunt a house...

Sorry if I offended you. I deal with trust and wills in the city. So if someone comes in from a place I don't know about its like I am being thrown curve ball. Hmm in this situation I am at for loss of words.

I wasn't ofended... just kinda embarrassing to bring up my living situation and the fact i live on a reserve.

I would not be embarrassed. I think you are dealing with a lot of things and embarrassment should not be one of them. This is from a guy who has slept under bridges and on beaches for lack of a better place.

I also want you to know that no matter how far you advance, your question will always be with me as well. I have been on my own, blundering through life since I was 17. So, while my dad doesn't take care of me, I talk with him every day. And it will be hard not to be able to when that time comes. Distance hasn't changed my reliance on him just talking to me.

I may help to have an app on your phone, tablet or computer that you can set to have reminders for times & days to do different tasks.

Not necessarily true.

Lots of people who have nocturnal body clocks work evening or overnight shifts, and do their shopping/appts/etc. in the morning or at night on their days off.

Is your reserve in a remote location? Do you think your psychologist could help you get a personal support worker? If you have a smartphone, I really reccommend setting up a schedule and routine on that which uses alarms to alert you to tasks you need to accomplish, such as eating, cleaning, etc. A lot a certain timeslot each day to cook fresh food, a certain time slot for general cleaning, a certain time slot for specific cleaning, a few time slots a week to get groceries and supplies etc.

Keep trying to learn new skills in the meantime while your dad is still around. If it comes to it, you have that option of a group home, but try your best to learn as many life skills as you can in the meantime.