Not Autistic because I have the wrong kind if empathy

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Ok, here's my pet theory of empathy: it develops with life experience. I was less empathetic than a lot of girls my age as a child, but it's changed. People with ASD mature later. They are often isolated and have fewer social experiences than others, and when they do have those experiences, they are often not aware of what they are seeing. That would lead to emotional empathy developing more slowly.

I recall very clearly that as a child, I didn't see much point in caring about the feelings of people who didn't care about mine. In retrospect, they might not have been aware of my feelings at all, because I didn't express them.

I became a lot more empathetic after meeting people who were nice to me.

My son is very empathetic, he can be brought to tears when our worthless sooner hound in the hot seat. Or movies scenes. He doesn't always catch someone is sad. Neither do I. But he shows much more sympathy than I when he does notice.
When I was young my compassionate empathy was through teh roof if I was moved,


Narcissists, Machiavellians, and sociopaths are supposed top be the adepts at cognitive according to Ekman. The emotional is supposed to be the feelings that you feel with the other, but can get burned out to indifference (I am sooo there) while compassionate is moved to action by the other stages.


Sometimes I get vibe that medical paraprofessionals don't like patient to come with a pre-suggested ailment but not diagnosed. Getting my sons migraines looked to where he could be referred and it was confirmed quickly by a neurologist was an excruciating process, if had to needlessly suffer for an ego's sake.

Most people are better at understanding things they have experienced themselves.

The only time I feel something is if I've been through it myself. Otherwise I generally will feel nothing for the situation.