i dont like my autistic sister that

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You're probably somewhere on the Autistic Spectrum.

Nobody can tell if you have Asperger's Syndrome based on what you write.

Any "diagnosis" would be based upon pure speculation.

Thanks, Cockney, for what you said. I think that was a good statement for us all to carry into Thanksgiving, actually. Your point of view is always sensible.

It made me think about an older family member who I have (who I low-key suspect of being on the spectrum) who has always had severe sensitivities to smells and food allergies and whatnot. It's been difficult to grow up accommodating her. Sometimes it's seemed like she's making up stuff so that all of the attention is all on her. I was thinking about that when you mentioned the trouble with traffic and body smells. My family member will get physically ill about things like that too. When I was a child it would hurt my feelings that she always thought I smelled bad. It made me less inclined to do things for her.

As I got older I really appreciated her for her kindness in other ways. And she was good about clearly describing how the different smells and foods made her feel and that she knew they didn't make other people feel that way. Now I consider her one of my best direct family members.

Ull have to see me in person thats why know me which is simple do u agree with me?

I mean you dont know me in person thats why how tell if i had aspergers syndrome my friend down brisbane he he thinks i have aspergers syndrome thats i have i talk my self all the time thats what mum said and stuff like that or im different to HFA person just aspergers or autism because i was confused and frustrated with mum because i dont understand with meaning the word or she have to explain to me or my sisters explain to as well so makes me it will make my self down and walk away with parents did want to talk at all

I think you're being very childish (ESPECIALLY, since you're 26-years-old)----that's not to say that your sister ISN'T being childish; but, because you're so much older than she is, it falls to YOU, to take the high road.

You've said that you have Asperger's----that means you have issues, difficulties, problems, sensitivities, etc.; you said that your sister has Autism----that means that SHE has issues, difficulties, problems, sensitivities, etc..... I think the two of you are voraciously competing----even more-so than "normal" siblings, and it's "magnified" cuz you two have Asperger's / Autism----and, I think you're competing in who has more difficulties, who's the smarter, who should have more attention, who should be able to whine more and how often----but, SOMEBODY'S gonna have to put-on their big-boy pants, and take the lead; after-all, YOU are, possibly, contributing to your mother's migraines, as WELL, by complaining all-the-time, about your sister.

Don't get me wrong, I TOTALLY understand about the sensitivity issues (her smelling, badly); but, what about if you try considering WHY she doesn't like showering, for instance, and ASKING her, instead of condemning her because she doesn't do things, the way YOU think she should? Grant it, she doesn't seem to be giving YOUR feelings, much consideration----but, she IS her own person, after-all; and, just because she doesn't do things the way YOU would, doesn't make you, RIGHT, and her, WRONG----it just makes you different.

Also, I don't mean to be rude, but there's an elephant in the room, that, as-of-this-writing, no one has addressed----and that is, the way you write. First-of-all, it gives almost NO indication that you ARE, in-fact, smart, as you say; and, secondly, it seems to indicate that you DON'T think of how others feel / others' reactions / others' sensitivities, because I doubt I'm the ONLY one who has had extreme difficulty in trying to figure-out what you're saying, because you don't use proper punctuation, capitalization, paragraphs, and so-forth (yes, I know you're deaf----but, AFAIK, that doesn't prevent someone from writing, properly / coherently).

Yeah i understand being deaf makes more difficult in understanding speech but how i deal with and also i usally leave my youngest sister alone because she told me she want left alone so i went my room alone shut door so i have trouble talking about people interest topic and calling me selfish thats i feel really down and walked away shut door do u know that i calling my mother negative reactions while sadness with my mood but i just cant handle situation when talking self all the time because i dont know what to say to them causing me frustration

A lot of people find it helpful to use scripts when they don't know what to say. Here's an example:

[Someone keeps talking about an interest that you are not interested in]
"That's interesting."
[They keep talking about it]
"I didn't know that."
[You want to talk about something else]
"What do you think about [another subject

By letting them talk and then asking them for their OPINION about YOUR interest, you can steer the conversation away from boring subjects and back to things that are interesting to you.

It is not always possible for people on the autism spectrum to completely focus on something they don't care about, so sometimes the best you can do is fake it.

I could imagine it could be frustrating, even scary, to be the higher functioning sibling if you have difficulties of your own, especially if the more severely affected sibling is violent and/or uses profane or unkind language. Those things make life very hard on the more functional individual, especially if they feel they aren't up to speed with "typical" people.

Im sorry i dont understand what your trying to say can explain please?