League_Girl wrote:
ASPartOfMe wrote:
MagicMeerkat wrote:
No one believes I have dyscalculia. No one in my family at least...despite the fact I have documentation to prove it. My family doesn't believe in learning disabilities and thinks they're just made up excuses for lazy people. My brother's kid might have it (same one I mentioned before) but thinks his kid is just lazy and unmotivated and thinks punishment can suddenly motivate his kid. It was bad being his sibling, but being his child would have to be pure hell.
Your profile lists you at age 29, so I would guess your parents are at least in their late 40's if not older which would mean they grew up around the same time I did. It was conventional wisdom then that people's difficulties were often a matter of choice. Dyscalculia? You were considered just bad at math. Unfortunately, while it has been proven this is often not true the old thinking is still prevalent. This is because they constantly read about people faking disabilities to get benefits and probably they know a few legitimately lazy people and maybe most importantly because these things are easy for them or if they were not hard work fixed the issue because they are not clinically intellectually disabled.
For many like you that do have a legitimate intellectual disability it does make life hell. I feel for you.
Well at least not all adults are like that where learning disabilities "didn't exist" because my parents are aware they do exist. I couldn't imagine if my mom just thought I was lazy and trying to get out of doing homework or just goofing off or just not trying hard enough. I probably would have dropped out which is very likely and struggled more in life.
I rarely took a day off from school. There were many years I had perfect attendance. It was a combination of luck of being not sick and the ethos of you had to tough it out. Unless you were truly sick as in clinical flu (they call a lot of things the flu today) you went. If you had a common cold you went, If I had diarrhea and was up all night as long as the diarrhea stopped by the morning I went. During the 1968 flu pandemic, only 5 people out of a class of 25 or so made it. I did not catch the flu lucky me.
Of course, there were plenty of days I did not want to go because I did not like the work or want to face bullies.
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23 Nov 2016, 12:46 am
