Does anyone else not understand familial ties?

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Very uncomfortable with it as a cultural imposition. Last year my family got very upset with me because I didn't want to do anything with them for my birthday.

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Exactly I do not understand family ties either

The Neurosciences instructor said that the human brain has 99 percent DNA in common with a watermelon. Something like that.....



What I do not get is what difference does it make if someone is in your immediate family or not

Like why should I have to be unconditionally loyal to my precious lil "parents", just because they are my precious lil "parents"?

I'm not sure how pointing out a double standard causes dismay. Fair assessments seem ethical to me, DO.

I don't use "familial ties" in my judgement of people. I don't think my brother is better than some stranger in the street because he's my brother.

I wish I had a "new" family to supersede my own actual family.

But "familial ties" are warranted. I wouldn't just up and leave my family, even if I'm angry with them.

People are predisposed to help family members, because that is one way to pass on a large fraction of their own genes. Just watch videos of people finding out they will be grandparents to see happy happy monkeys. However, we also have a "kick the kids out" phase starting with puberty and delayed by abilities still not equal to the available opportunities. The friction inspires more effort and learning.
However, there is also sibling rivalry, as each competes for parental resources, and, 10% of the time, a misidentified father in the mix. Even without infidelity, parents may divorce, fall ill, go missing to care for a grandparent, etc. Everyone is dealing with their own mix of arrested developments and phobias. The result is that many families eject members, and some fracture completely. Wills are often evidence of bizarre patterns.
I know a guy who lives on a farm that had its centennial this year. The family has grown quite large, so he had to spend a couple of weeks busily sprucing the place up for a big reunion. Then, he went camping to avoid it.

I actually like my family. They get me. I feel more of a bond with them than any other people.

I never bonded with either parent. My sister kept trying to get an NT response out of our mom, and it was researching that problem for her that revealed us both as AS. Mom's last words to me were "don't call me, I'll call you." She had just gotten around to asking why I left home, and was surprised to hear that dad had thrown me out. In turn, I asked at what age she had last changed one of her ideas, and she got worried I might try to change one of them at the last minute, so she rang off.