Do you have friends?

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My husband was my only friend.
Until he got abusive
We've just split up.

Make sure you don't go back to him, I don't believe people change their nature.

I am sorry to hear all of this!

I have some people I would consider acquaintances, we don't talk on the phone, go places together or visit our homes. I recently visited someone at their house and we talk on the phone and visit at community places. I might consider that person a possible friend but not yet.

The two friends I had moved to other states. I chat with them on Facebook every so often. I haven't had much luck making any other friends. I never get beyond the acquaintance stage with anyone and I live in a very small town so my options are limited and everybody knows everybody.

I do have a few people I can confidently call friends. I used to wish I had more such people in my life, but surprisingly, I haven't caught myself having that thought since befriending a female colleague of mine. I guess that in a way, she filled a void I didn't even know existed until I met her.

Ms. Peel is a nice, steady, helpful presence here.

i hope she finds a soulmate soon.

Yup. I have no intention of going back to him, I know he can't change.
But it's tough going.
He wants me back so he's on his best behaviour now, promising to change his ways, acting the sweet guy I fell in love with, and asking me not to rip the family apart. Makes me feel like a complete s**t

Sorry, enough on my issues, I'd better make my own thread so I can have a proper rant.

Edited to add: and many thanks Mr. Robot and Kraftie for your kind words.

You missed an option: "No, and I'm not really sure whether I wish I did".

I have plenty of acquaintances, but I don't think I'd call any of them friends. I do wish I had friends, but I'm kind of scared of the consequences of having friends.

Specifically, having friends would probably mean having people over, and having to attend more social events, neither of which do I really like.

But I do get lonely, and when I go through a full weekend without any kind of social contact, I tend to come out of it feeling depressed.

Does that mean I wish I had friends, or I'm glad to not have them? Sort or both I think.

EDIT: I just noticed the "I used to, but I lost them all". That's what I really should have voted for. I guess both the "No" options imply that I've never had a friend on my life, which really isn't the case.

Recently lost both my friends, friends who I had for a very long time.

Got sick, had serious problems and they did not do anything to support me or help me when I was always there for them. They always said they were just as loyal as me, but in the end, all lies. Am honest when I say I was devastated and still am upset about it. When I confronted them about this, one got angry and just outright stopped contact and I never heard anything anymore, but the other started throwing my problems and autism in my face and things I told him in confidence, the weak points so to say and even threatened to come over to my house and hurt me. Just told him he wasn't supportive and he starts threatening me, pure insanity.

So now I have nobody. Been so for a few months now and I miss having people to share my life with, they did share a lot of my views and that was nice, feeling that someone has your back, even if it was a lie in the end.

In my opinion there is a difference between acquaintances and friends, I have many acquaintances but they are not my friends. A friend is someone you share your life with, have fun with on a personal level and invite to your house, hang out with and are yourself with. My opinion at least.

@MrsPeel

Been in a relationship where I got mentally abused and it's horrible. Really sorry you had to go through that. Hope you will find good people soon that want to be your friend. And they always manipulate and gaslight to make you feel sorry and take them back, please don't fall for it, you are doing great!

Yes a few including my wife.

I have a girlfriend but I'm not sure if she counts even thou I do consider her the best friend I ever had. I have one other friend & he's my former supervisor. I only see him 1ce a year sense I moved across the country. We don't text much either thou.

I have one friend. We met at Tafe and she helped me with my paperwork. I asked her if she wanted to be friends outside of Tafe (college). She said yes and we have been friends since. We have had ups and downs and at one stage stopped talking for a few months but in the end we get along.

I joined a walking group not too long ago and I think I am making a friend in it. She's religious and I'm not but we always have plenty to talk about. She's very funny. I like that about her.

I don't want any friends but a woman at work keeps on insisting to be my friend she got bipolar and not many friends herself so she hangs around me but I don't want her.

In my eyes I have no friends just my husband and I don't count his friends as my friends.

I had a friend. But then I added up all the little things and realised I'd been abused by this person. Strung along for their perverse amusement.

Perhaps in the future I'll have a friend. I've not ruled out the possibility but it needs to be someone worthy of the role.

Yes. Don't ask me how to make friends. I don't make friends. I just wait for people to make friends with me. It's surprisingly effective.