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Google to find a number for a crisis help line near to you.

Ring and tell them you need an urgent referral to a provider that can treat you for poor impulse control which is manifesting in your inability to stop your destructive behaviour.

Ring as many centres as you need to until someone says "we can help you with that".

Stop asking the same question, start taking action or if you can't, ask a family member to make the call with or for you.

and what can they do. I don't want to be this way forever. I USED TO BE HAPPY

You have two choices as to what to do. Start a plan for change, or stay stuck. It comes down to making a decision to act and acting on it or doing nothing differently to stay where you are. If you need help to make the transition then enlist the support of a counsellor.

Complaining here might help you aerate your anger but won't help you make any of the changes you want.

but what about the things i destroyed

That was then, this is now. Understand that the only point of power is in the present and the choices you make NOW. No-one can time travel back and change what they did in the past. Be realistic about this if you are serious about moving forward.

I spent £134 on a new camera today and this evening i just destroyed it do you have any idea how that feels. I can't keep affording to get new ones

Then stop breaking them.

I can't. I get so angry because I don't have a job, i don't have a girlfriend. I have a s**t penis. I am fat, I have spots over my face.
I Hate myself and i don't feel i deserve the things I love so destroy them

First of all, how old are you? If you're, like, under 21, you are young and not everybody that young has a relationship. Even some NTs don't feel they're ready to be tied down in a relationship that young. Yes, it's true.
If you're in your 20s, well, it isn't the end of the world that you don't have a girlfriend yet. I met my boyfriend on the bus, which neither of us were expecting, now it's 4 years later and we're like soulmates. So, you never know what's in store for you.

If you're over 30, there's still nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend, but if your sex drive is driving you crazy and you feel sex-starved then masturbate or something.

im 25

Still young.

What kind of things interest you?

travelling

You're still quite young. A lot of girls don't care for penis size. I don't. You will meet a girl.

Just stop taking your anger out on these poor cameras. What have the cameras ever done to you? If you feel you don't deserve one, don't buy one. You only don't deserve a camera because you keep breaking them. Otherwise, you do deserve nice things and a girlfriend. You've just got to bide your time, enjoy what you have and if you get angry take it out on something what won't break.

Sorry, I don't really have much advice to give.

but i like taking pics

All the more reason to stop breaking your camera.
You are the only person who gets to decide what you deserve.
If you decide you don't deserve things, that is your opinion, which is a thought in your head and nothing else.
You could just as easily decide that you ARE deserving.

yeah but

1. I Want a girlfriend
2. I want to drive
3. I want to go to UNI
4. I want a good job