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IsabellaLinton
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20 Dec 2018, 11:04 am

Hi Fern,
I hope you don't mind me sharing an opinion. If you are uncomfortable discussing your find with your mother and you feel conflicted between taking the notes / leaving them, can you zip out somewhere and photocopy the set? Does your mother have a scanner? I would make a second copy for "back up" regardless of who retains the first. I'm sorry that assessment experience went the way it did for you :cry: , but I'm glad you have access to the information now.


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20 Dec 2018, 11:22 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
If you are uncomfortable discussing your find with your mother and you feel conflicted between taking the notes / leaving them, can you zip out somewhere and photocopy the set?

Good idea. I would put it back but take some photos of the pages first.


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20 Dec 2018, 11:26 am

Is it just me, or does anyone else think that maybe the OP's mom wanted her to find the file?

I mean, to me it seems too much like a setup to be a mere coincidence ...



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20 Dec 2018, 11:33 am

I don't really want my personal medical documents in a file at someone else's house -especially since it's a place multiple people can access. Making a copy won't solve that.



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20 Dec 2018, 11:48 am

I've been in a similar situation of spending time alone in my mother's house during the past year and I've brought a lot of things home (photos of myself, school reports, notes, etc)., many of which I used in my Developmental History for my ASD assessment. I didn't seek permission because I believe they're mine and when she eventually passes away she'll expect me to take them anyway.


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20 Dec 2018, 3:29 pm

Fern wrote:
I don't really want my personal medical documents in a file at someone else's house -especially since it's a place multiple people can access. Making a copy won't solve that.

I think that's totally OK. Neverless I would make a digital copy and also tell that you have taken it. I would guess that your mother don't cares much about the documents but also don't wants that somebody just takes something without letting her know this.


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20 Dec 2018, 3:38 pm

Fern wrote:
Well when I was 13 my mother shouldn't have told me that I was going to school, then pushed me out of a car door in front of a psychologist's office (with NO explanation to me at all). -I mean, do you know how awkward it is to come into an assessment like that? They thought I was crazy when I said I didn't know why I was there! She shouldn't have driven away and left me there all alone to find out that she suspected there was something wrong with me. She shouldn't have broken down and refused to talk to me about it afterwards. She shouldn't have hoarded my medical records for 20 years. She shouldn't have told me I wasn't smart enough to become a scientist. She shouldn't have done a lot of things. It's okay though. Shoulds and shouldn'ts asside I love my mom, and she loves me. She just messes up sometimes. So do I. I just need to set one more thing right. It would give me closure on a major part of my life.

I think I'll tell my mom that I took them, but I won't ask. If I ask that gives her the option to say "no". That gives her an option to make herself comfortable at my expense again. So I'm just going to tell her I have them when I'm leaving, just so she's not looking for them or worried they are lost. I mean, what possible use would she have for them anyway? I've been living financially independently from my parents for over a decade now.


If she does things like that, I wouldn't trust her with a medical record. She could use it against you one day.



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20 Dec 2018, 4:30 pm

I was a fairly good oral reader, but I also was a college level reader when reading silently. I used to get nervous reading out loud, but I knew the material.

I'm impressed that you know calculus. The highest math I ever did was Algebra 2, and that was my junior year in college, not high school, as it should be. I was already nearly finished with my Bachelor's degree in English. I regret that I wasn't better in math, because I don't dislike it.