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Could this be a "Yes-But" game, which is a covert way of expressing hostility, as, no matter what you offer it will be wrong, so, in short, gotcha:-)?

http://lifestoogood.net/victim-persecutor/

I feel like the OP knows that nobody will take in somebody off the street who is totally unknown to (that somebody).

thrwaway is an interesting choice of user names for this young lady.
thrwaway could mean Throwaway Girl which is the name of a book by kristine scarrow.

An overview of the book reads:
In her debut Young Adult novel, Kristine Scarrow draws on a degree in psychology, social work experience, and obvious talent to tell the story of Andy Burton, a girl who spends most of her life without a stable home.

When Andy’s Grade 4 teacher notices telltale bruises on the girl’s body from her abusive mother, Andy’s life changes forever. She’s placed in a foster home, where she finds the loving family she’s always hoped for. Everything is perfect, until Andy’s foster parents are killed in a tragic accident.

The narrative then moves into the gritty world of short-term foster care, with chapters alternating between past and present. In addition to the abuse and neglect she experiences as a child, teenaged Andy is raped, loses her best friend to suicide, and finds comfort in bottles of cheap liquor and the arms of her would-be pimp. Nearing legal adulthood, Andy ends up in a group home for girls where the kind-hearted staff help her prepare for a new, independent life.

So I wonder if this young lady choose this user name because it reflect her view of life, her life experiences.

If the OP can dispense with the insults, and tell her story, we just might listen.

I understand she might be looking for someone "out of the goodness of the heart" to offer her a place to stay. She is appealing to the altruistic spirit in people, perhaps.

I find many people have altruistic intentions---but they are also necessarily wary because of their "survival instinct."

In real life, nobody will put you up "out of the blue" in a place like the UK. It might have happened in the old days; it doesn't happen now for many reasons. For the same reason why people hardly ever hitchhike in certain areas. Because there's always the risk of harm in these sorts of situations.

There are many people here who feel stuck in their situations. You're probably stuck in your situation, too. This is the basis for dialogue, and for communication.

If she doesn't tell her story, there can be no solution. There might not be a "solution," anyway----but why not give it a try?

I promise: I'm not going to say she's a crybaby or whatever. I won't insult her. I won't give her a cynical response.

I feel like I understand her anger. I might have experienced this sort of thing before. I still experience it in general sometimes, but in a different way. It's not exactly her situation now (though it might have been my situation back 30 years ago or so).

When I was single, I would of taken in a woman who needed a place to stay if I would of had my own place. I was struggling majorly to find a girlfriend & I couldn't get any girl to give me half a chance. I also HATED sleeping alone. I mean sleep literally. I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & don't have an interest in having sex outside of a serious romantic relationship & I don't need it in a serious relationship either. I have a girlfriend I'm living with now thou & don't live in the UK but there might be other lonely guys out there who are desperate for a girlfriend & have their own place.