Why do some autistics lack the ability too hide it?

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It could also be that women are "better at masking" because social norms expect different things from us to some extent... for examble, being very emotional is a stereotype associated with women. If a woman is shy and doesn't talk much it's often not seen as weird, either. However, women who aren't emotional in the "right way" are less likely to be accepted, so they need to mask more and are in serious trouble if they can't.
There's also the thing that society expects girls to be more socially skilled than boys, so if a girl clearly has trouble then it's noticed easier (assuming she's not the quiet and shy type), so the parents start drilling social skills in their heads earlier, making them have a head start on practicing social skills on purpose to many autistic men of same level.

Why do folks who have a condition that impairs their social instincts ...lack the social instincts... to mask the fact that they...have a condition that impairs their social instincts?

I dunno.
Maybe its because they ..have a condition that impairs their social instincts?

Seems to me that the question to ask is the opposite question: "why are SOME autistics able to mask their autism?"

Also you imply that you are one of the anointed who ARE able to "hide it".

But how do you know that you yourself are really hiding it? You don't know what folks say about you behind your back.

It's subjective as what a "good answer" constitutes....

Here's the facts...the ratio of of diagnosed ASD is 5:1 in terms males:females
There's a crappy myth perpetuated by Baron-Cohen and Attwood that women are better at masking which actually doesn't make sense when you look at the ratio?

According to Maya Dusenbury, author of Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick, there are two major issues in health care that harm women. First, health issues more common among women have been low-priority for researchers. "Even today, study results are still not usually analyzed by sex, despite the fact that we now know there are often important differences between men and women in everything from the symptoms of the same disease to how various drug treatment are metabolized,” she tells Bustle.


The second issue is the medical community's “lack of trust” in women’s self-reports of symptoms. "There's a tendency to minimize, normalize, or psychologize women's symptoms — especially subjective ones like pain or fatigue,” Dusenbury says. "Many women find that before they are diagnosed, their physical symptoms are attributed to psychological distress, like depression, anxiety, or ‘stress.' This is rooted in a very long-standing stereotype that women are particularly prone to ‘hysteria’ — physical symptoms that are rooted in the 'unconscious mind.’”

https://www.bustle.com/p/after-8-years- ... f-17940653

My autism has become a lot more obvious too my friends now I am 29 compared too when I was 19.

I dunno maybe teenagers don’t understand as much about autism compared too adults?

How do you mask what you have difficulty doing? If you lack social skills or social instincts how would you mask that? The only way I know how to "mask" something I'm bad at is to avoid it all together.

To me masking implies that you can fake having good social skills. I would think like anything else, you either bad at it or you're not.

When you are 19 people judge you on potential, what you could be. No normal person had a college degree at 19.
At 29 people are more likely to judge you on whether you have a job and have moved out and living on your own.