Do you want friends?

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more votes please

am suppose to say i would like to have friends, i believe is the correct answer on the mmps test, think am referencing some weird personality test . that p-doc administer .

must say that when i found someone to be in love with or however that is percieved for a person .
And having it for 13 yrs ..there is no replacement . and still miss him desperately somedays ..
But being able to be independant of each other , was a part of the magic aswell. Even a strength.
sorry just had to add that .

I don't really care whether I have friends or not.

I'm friendly and talk to people, but I stop at being friends - that's too much like work because it doesn't come natural to me. Maintenance, phone calls, drop-ins, inventing things to do, feels fake.
I love bumping into people. If the conversation is interesting or I'm feeling social we can have coffee or whatever. If it's bad timing or I'm not feeling it I can make an excuse to leave. Sometimes a simple bump-into can lead to several days of activities if I'm having fun and there's no pressure.
I live alone and nobody but family comes to visit. I used to want to be more socially involved but it was exhausting!

Oh, my gosh.

I can be very selfish, I'm cowardly, overemotional, can be creepy or a bit scary, and I really miss when I was a young kid and it was okay to just hug people and make them art and give them cookies and flowers and say that you loved them and make them a list of what you liked about them and tell them they "weren't allowed to leave", now it seems if you hand someone a debit card, and your hands almost touch, but then don't, you have to worry about the fact that your hands almost bumped and now they seem upset at you, and it's all a maze.

I wanted friendship for a long time.
Then I went through a period of having various groups of friends one after the other, but always dropping them from my life completely after a few months.
After a while I had an epiphany and realised I can’t stand the endless chaotic distraction that more than one irl friend brings to the general situation.
I have fond memories of friends past, and no desire to see them again, or to repeat the experience with new ones.

I personally don't really care if I have friends or not,but it would nice to have someone to talk with and who cares about me besides family members(mainly parents).I haven't had friends in a while and and I never even got to a friendship level with women,let alone a romantic level with women. I want to think that it's still possible for me to have friends or even a romantic relationship,but I don't think people like me enough or some cases I just don't like them enough.I'm fine without having friends or romantic partner(as long as I still have my parents to contact with anyway),but atleast one friend or romantic partner would be nice.

In general, no. But if someone has the same interest and isn't a total b***h or a**hole to me, sure. I'm not saying you have to be obsessed with meerkats (actually that might not be a good idea. I'd honestly just see the person as someone to have to compete with and people to compete with just do not seem to be good friend material) but if you're a Cruella Deville or trophy hunter or one of those people who passionately hates animals or sees them as a resource you're not going to be friends with me neither.

Also, I had a bad experience online with people who supposedly shared my Lion King special interest and as a result I try to avoid other Lion King fans and only approach them when I have to and very cautiously.

But in general, I don't really care if I have friends or not. I hate having to pretend to be interested in something I am not simply to appease this other person when they don't do that for me. In order for me to be friends with someone, I have to have at least one interest in common with them. If they loose interest, the friendship usually is out the window too unless we both loose interest.

I remember not starting preschool and telling my mom I didn't want friends, she didn't believe me. She said everyone wants them "even mean ol boys". But I could not convince her I wanted friends of any gender of the human species.

It might be best that potential friendships involve ample understandings of AS/HFA - yet too much understanding of AS/HFA might actually be unfavorable.

As many people concerned with the Autism Spectrum understand, becoming acquainted with people understanding of AS/HFA proves to be very elusive, and more often than not, by chance and accident!

WP might work best if WP can actually play roles in boosting those important dynamics -- which might encourage those of us with AS/HFA to develop, and maintain such elusive friendships!

I want friends and I have a few but none of them are really local. And the ones I have that are local, even though the friendships are good, it's always draining for me. One of the reasons is that I am not my age emotionally or socially. So I have to make huge efforts all the time to always be age appropriate around other adults even though they are my friends. It gets to be a lot of work. Fortunately I am on a ski team that happens to be a junior team and I ski with the ten and eleven year olds. Socially I do really well with them and I really enjoy that but it is only a few hours four days a week and then only for the three to four months of winter. It is very hard for me to relate to people as an adult and if I do I get super analytical and deep and profound and that is really hard for people. So with me you either get a little kid or a super deep analytical profound person that will be so intense others can't stand it. So it's hard for me to really have close friends.

It would be nice to have a couple more, but I'm pretty lucky to have even one.

The people I was closest too have always been "bad influences". I need to be interested in what you have to say, and you need to say it with confidence (or else I think you're full of sh*t). But to sustain you need to surprise me. At the time I didn't think of it in these terms but looking back...by not acting your age, screwing up on occasion, being somewhat active, having interesting stories, being an outlier.
Older now so I don't get a chance to meet people like this anymore. But I do enjoy some of my kids & their friends shenanigans. My kids must love me because they always tell me the strangest stories with such enthusiasm, I have to laugh! I'm pretty sure most of it is made up but they know it makes me happy.

I would rather have buddies. People I like and who like me. But not a relationship type thing that has to be maintained. "I haven't heard from you for two whole days. Are you okay? Are you mad at me?". "Fine! I didn't want to be your friend anyways!". Pass.

I can't really vote because there is no "I don't know" option

I use to want them but at this point I'm really not sure.

I've gotten rather accustom to being alone and I'm not sure if I know how to really be with others, be friends with someone outside of the Net. There's other various issues.

If I were to be asked if I would like to have someone I could see in person that I felt connected, safe, and not awkward that I could occasionally go do stuff with then I'd probably say yes. Some might say that is what a friend is, but it's not something I've really been able to find in friends.

I'm not into having friends. When I was young the other kids abused me, so I came to prefer being by myself at an early age. As an adult I still prefer my own company, and I also don't care to be pressured into meeting the demands of others, and I'm also not good at meeting those demands anyway, so again, I prefer to be by myself. When I spend too much time with others we all get mad at each other because I either can't or won't comply with their wishes, and then they get upset and are nasty to me, so I get stressed out. Being alone works best for me. I still do occasionally visit relatives, and sometimes they come here, but I spend almost all of the time alone, which works best for me. I can handle short visits with the relatives most of the time, because I know I'll be able to be alone again once the visit is over.