How did you play with other children when you were little?

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but it is useful to have some people around for if you need help with something and the best way to recruit 'helpers' is to do random acts of 'kindness' and helping to others. Often people will take this without reciprocation but some are open to helping me in return if I ever ask them to (I actually prefer to everything for myself if possible, they are 'insurance').
The important thing is to not 'expect' them to reciprocate as then you will be disappointed. If you find that someone is just taking then you stop being so helpful to them if it annoys you.

Last edited by alexbeetle on 21 Oct 2007, 12:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

GEE, if THAT is your definition of a friend, I have had PLENTY! My definition of a friend is an odd one. It is a person that will offer you anything when s/he feels you need it or want it, even FORCE you to take money!, but hesitates to even ask if the conditions are reversed.

MOST "friends" are there to just get rid of boredom, or to ask you to do things for THEM.

Anyway, you can see the paradox. It's sad! HELL, my dad has a friend that has a friend. BOTH are VERY famous and RICH!(my dad isn't really famous, though he claims to have created a key part of IBMs infrastructure that has its roots everywhere today. I don't know if he is really even rich, but he doesn't even make the list where as the others are in like the top 13) He wanted to go someplace his friend and her friend were going, and they flew on the mutual friends jet! Outside of mutual interests, I don't think they asked my father for anything. I'm probably the first in his entire family to not have THAT interest, so I can't join.

I'm always kind. That's the problem. I can't turn this thing off. The only thing that prevents me from sawing off my arm and having it mailed to Niger as food is continually chanting "anger and loathing" like some mantra. I can't function without my arms, dude.

I find that people tend to like me better if I promise to use them as instruments of my wrath when I have risen to power. My greatest fear is that they'll come to the realization that I am not really related to a Viking God, for keeping them bent to my will is all that prevents them from being unleashed upon the world like some uncontrollable plague. The fate of Mankind depends upon my tyranny and lies. Please understand.

I was super submissive, but then agian I don't know if I have AS.

I was willing to play, but I always had to be the thing that no one else wanted to be. "You be the monster and we'll chase you around with sticks" kind of thing. I always got to be the one who was chased and screamed at.

I preferred the company of adults. I would sit and listen to the adults talking at parties when other children ran around playing games.

I had a male friend (neighbour) who was a year or two older than me. I liked his company because he was the only person my age I knew who I didn't beat at board games, so at least I had a challenge, and he often won, which I liked. It made a change. Hmm - I wonder where he is now and what he does?

Ohhh My God, I was absolutly bossy as hell and had to dominate any activity or person involved. Of course if I had no plan to do something then I would go along with the crowd, but since I hung out with only 3 other kids mainly growing up, whenever I decided I had a plan of what to do for the next day then on that day we would do that (they often followed for a bit) and would have to follow my specifications on whatever project or thing we were doing.

I refine my answer upon deeper thought. I was bossy with people I knew, I wanted to control every situation as I thought it made life easier to be prepared. I was rather quiet to children I didn't know. Kids I didn't know were often poking their tongue out at me - one rudely pushed me down a slide at burger king when I wasn't ready to go (think I was 5) I couldn't believe someone could be so rude for absolutely no reason. My mum had a chat with me after that (& after chewing the child's mother out) I was black & white - either bossy/organized or sensitive. I was raised to behave though so that conflicted with how I learned how to play with other kids. Kids are often let to just do anything, I was raised that if it wasn't mine I couldn't touch it. When I saw other kids doing whatever the heck they wanted, I remember that being really confusing.

I didn't most times...I read by myself and if they wanted to play I would bite them

I don't know if I would call myself bossy back then but I could see how it could be applied. I did my own thing pretty much back then(still do I guess ) so if I did play with someone it was me pretty much dominating it.

I'd say so.

I was quite oblivious to people; I'd feel no different when I was with people around me than if I was by myself. The only exception was with my mother, she's always been my "anchor". As I got older, I began to notice people as individuals rather than as..., I don't know what I thought they were, but they weren't "real", they were just there, they did stuff with me if they made the effort, but I didn't care either way if they did or not (just another distraction in my mind); anyway, back to when I got older, this is when I discovered that my actions affect them--positively and negatively (it was quite an illuminating experience). The older I've gotten, the more and more I see people as...living and breathing entities that have their own wants and consciousnesses. When I played team sports when I was little, the people who played with me were no different to video game characters, mechanical objects that made the game possible (I'd happily make people cry in the course of the game due to roughhousing and I'd feel nothing).

It's just too much for my mind to handle now; that's why I feel pain when I'm in the presence of people, they're the environment that makes me overwhelmed.

I think for a while I was quite bossy and unflexible, but as I got older I became very shy and passive, because I realized being bossy was mean to other people.

I was pretty submissive in a lot of things. When I was little I really only played at one friend's house and he was an only child so was always looking for someone to play with. I was pleased to have someone want and even ask for me to come over and play so I usually went along with whatever he wanted to do.
However if we ever played nebulous vs. games like cops and robbers I would get pretty strict because I had to follow my own internal rules of so many "hits" and you had to go down, but most kids pretty much do whatever they want while playing those kinds of things. So we didn't play many of those vs types of things, but would play cooperative us vs. imaginary foes where there were not really any "rules" to follow other than ones you wanted to.
With my younger brother and sister I think I was a lot more rigid as I played with them more often and could more easily make them do things and play how I wanted. I would be more of the boss and decide what and how we were going to play.

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Me too Daniel.

I ujnderstand where you're coming from. I was (and still am) very shy and quiet growing up. I only really had one friend growing up and that was my next door neighbour who I met when I was three. I've always been sort of a tomboy and since my friend was a boy, I got along well with him. We played with action figures, battleship and lego whereas my sister, who is the loud one, was always playing with those absolutely foul barbie doll creatures and other allegedly "girly" things. I remember this time when I was about nine, I was absolutely fanatical about the Titanic and everything about the ship and history surrounding the ship. I had recently gotten the board game and I was so psyched to play it with the girl who I had invited over to my house. I went into an in-depth one-sided conversation about the Titanic and she decided she didn't want to play the game and promptly went to go play with my sister. That was the first time I felt like a weird outcast.

I had one best friend (the child of neighbours) who I did everything with. Sometimes another girl would play with us as well but we didn't really like her much.

My parents tried to make me be friends with a girl in my class at school but we didn't actually get on because we never wanted to do the same things.

I have no memory of showing any interest in any other children until I was about 8 or 9 when some of the girls in my class started to talk to me at break times. I wasn't that interested though, as far as I can remember.

I was actually much happier reading a book on my own.