How Do You React To Criticism?

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Constructive criticism, given in a calm and logical manner, I'm ok with. But I have a big problem with criticism that is intended to make me feel bad or that I'm not good enough. Interestingly enough, I've experienced some of the latter being used under the guise of constructive criticism, somewhat blurring the line between the two. That type of criticism hurts deeply, and makes me want to cry at times.

So I probably fall somewhere in between choices 1 and 2 but I picked the first one because much of the criticism I've received in life has been the berating type, as opposed to constructive.

I don't care about criticism. If its constructive, it isn't really criticism, its just observation. If someone said to me that I didn't work well during my degree, I would have to agree but I wouldn't get angry. I know I didn't work as hard as I could have for various reasons. If someone calls me an idiot because I hold a certain opinion, I conclude that such a person has cognitive difficulties and is showing signs of neurotic dysfunction such as emotional reasoning and projection. Such as person is not to be listened to. If someone criticises my social skills then I look at that person as being emotionally unstable and perhaps a bully. If someone offers advice on how to improve my social skills, then I will listen and decide if they have a point.

Criticism suggests alternatives.

Insults suggests only certainties and no solutions.

I have Asperger's and I have a really hard time with any kind of critism. Dawn

I don't react well to it at all.

With a smile, a smirk, a well-supported opinion, well-documented facts, and a lot of passive-aggressive behavior as I wait for my critics to respond with violence, lies, and/or verbal abuse so that I can report them and watch as they're served their walking papers.

All in a day's work!