Aspergers and social skills

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Maybe you have just have to learn that your social circles will be different. If you really want to understand or get him, maybe you should suggest going to an arcade, somewhere he'd be more comfortable. He might even begin to socialize in his own way with people who have similar interests. Don't expect it to be overnight. He'll do whatever feels comfortable to him, at his own pace.

You said it. Perhaps he needs to accept things as they are, that he will have his social circle and his brother will have his own and if they aren't the same or they don't intersect, that's just how it has to be. The brother who plays video games has just as much right to be who he is as the concerned brother has to do the same.

My parents often tried to force me to socialize in my sister's social circle, and I was always uncomfortable, bored, miserable, etc., because I wasn't allowed to be me. Only when she finally left home was I free to socialize as I chose which is some cases, wasn't at all.

I'll say this, because I was a very shy NT for awhile (highschool) my social skills were not 100% but I will say I picked it up in almost no time at all once I broke out of my shell.
Truth is, no one's social skills are 100%. No one can tell what someone is feeling all the time. I can tell when someone is tired but interested but tired and not interested kinda look like just like bored. Bored is a little different than tired (no yawn, stretch, people tend to be a little fidgety) but its not the same with everyone. No one gets another person 100% all the time. NT or not. No one is not shy in some situation. Meeting someone new can be tough for anyone. Dating confuses most. Men and women still have to read "Men are from mars and Women are from Venus" even if they are NT's. Everyone gets better from experience, just like anything else. Thats it.

When I was young my skills were not the best, not bad. I was told I was socially naive. At university they improved and after university they improved much better and it is has improved further. It is not 100%. I only have at 30 years old on communication.. I think when I was younger if a bit more attention was paid to social skills then it would have gon a long way. My asperger syndrome is very mild, people think I am normal. When I was a child I had 1 friend outside school and few not great friends. I was the only non-white person in a highly pressurized posh school so my social skills suffered. I did not apply the social skills to a different situation.

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social skills difficulties 1) I have a Dad who probably has AS and a Mum who was so busy working + doing housework.

3) I was very depressed between the age of 15 and 17.

Do I have AS?