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11 Oct 2008, 7:47 pm

If she played that trick on me then I'd say, "Don't you trust my interpretation of the instructions?".. "Is this a science experiment or a play? Shall I go get my cowboy costume?" She was being a b!tch. Your reaction was fine.



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11 Oct 2008, 9:35 pm

Esther wrote:
I'm NT and I would have thought two things in this situation:

1. I would have clarified and said, "You mean out loud?"

or

2. I would have read the instruction to myself first and then said to the group, "OK. The next step says to..."

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I get myself into embarrassing situations as well, LabPet. I find that the best way is to laugh it off and make a joke. Most of the time, the people end up laughing with me.


Yes, or this woman could do with a warning.



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12 Oct 2008, 3:27 am

ethos has it right. Silly stuff, to be forgotten.

I hit points like this all the time. I'M the one who laughs first.

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12 Oct 2008, 8:36 am

TAing helped me a lot! embarrassing moments and all.


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12 Oct 2008, 8:47 am

I find that if I learn to laugh when I have these little moments, then it helps everyone. Usually, when people point out to me these little moments, they either forget I'm autistic or they don't know. So, I heave learned to educate people that I do tend to take things literally. Usually, in my case, someone will ask me something when I'm focusing on other things and they ask me soemthing or tell me to do something and distractedly I answer literally. It takes a few more minutes for me to think it out and figure out what they actually mean.

People I work closely with have learned that if I answer quickly and literally, it usually means that I'm not focusing on them. My boss asks me if that's my final answer or if I want to take a few minutes to think about it before he starts laughing. This has the added bonus of making me focus on him and what he's asking. I'm pretty good natured and don't get ruffled by my "autistic moments" much anymore. At least I try not to. What still upsets me is when something throws me into a meltdown and I can't control my reaction. I can't figure out how to get past meltdowns and make fun of them until MUCH later.


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12 Oct 2008, 9:55 am

Seeing as I've seen this topic, perhaps an example for me happened today.

In the supermarket. At the checkout there were no plastic bags in their usual place hanging up.

I went along 2 checkouts to get some bags, and never thought the checkout girl would have bags under the desk.

So I moved to get bags when I didn't need to. It could have been embarrassing if the checkout girl hadn't been as understanding as she was.