Non romantic obsessions with people

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I like to ppl watch, and in my town I guess you could call it an obsession, for some certain (interesting, but I don't know them personally) ppl, I know how they walk, what they wear and what they eat. I don't actually follow them or anything, but when I happen to be where they are its hard not to want to watch them

Yes I am learning my lesson, that I have to keep my distance. Once I start to feel the obsession start I should try to be aloof and stay away . Sometimes I am so terrified of an obsession going into full gear that I start to avoid the person like the plague, much to their chagrin.

I was like that with my former best friend. Eventually I became too overbearing for her and we split up. It was very painful.

I'm a big time obsessive non romantic interest taker.

It happened a lot more when I was younger...and it was mostly with other girls.

When i was in my band, I was kinda lonely, and there was no one I could relate to really at all. I had 0 female friends. I did not get along very well with the girlfriends of my bandmates...and then this girl sorta became part of our "entourage" she was the sister of a friend of my bass player and only turned up once in a while....She was kinda crazy and eccentric and introverted, and I think had even spent some time in a mental hospital...and I became obsessed with the notion of becoming her friend....but I only made a fool of myself... She was much cooler than me, and every time I attempted to talk to her, I would always ask her the exact same questions...(I was so lame)

There were a few other similar ones. There was an unusual looking girl I went to school with and she was always by herself and wore unusual clothes (bob haircut and clogs)...and I was always noticing her.
One day I brought her a bag of the vintage clothes I obsessively collected.
She accepted the bag of clothes without saying a word and never acknowledged me again.

There are a few more examples, but I will stop there.

They were not major obsessions...just sorta brought about by me wanting to relate to people.

I don't normally form any obsessions for people in general, but when I do, it is usually because I hate them because they have done something to hurt me. That has only ever happened to me three times in my life - one was an ex boyfriend, one used to be a friend of mine as a child and the other was only someone I met once and, because of her behaviour, I don't intend to meet again.

i perceive many people as 'objects' in a sense. not as obects in a sexual sense, but i tend to meet someone and they become a special project of analysis - trying to figure them out, i suppose, and get a picture of their complexitiy. i perceive relationships with people as this huge web. I analyse other humanbeings in terms of their use in relation to my main special interest.
i believe it is called categorisation and systematisation. i do not keep files. these exist quite naturally in my head.

these obhjects are mysterious and i do not feel i can adequtley penetrate them or have an adequate understanding of them, WIHTOUT understanding how they work and tic.

i pull apart. i analyse.
people are not off-limits in this regard.
i also discard.

i have been told i am selfish, ruthless and have no feelings in this respect.

We had a TV news reporter in my area until recently who had a very interesting look about her. Her last name could have been either Italian or Spanish, and she had that olive-colored skin. I don't know why, but I couldn't rest until I found out what her ethnic background was, so I emailed her.

Of course it doesn't matter, but I just couldn't get the thought out of my head.

She was gracious enough to email me back and tell me she was half Italian and half Lebanese. What an interesting combination.

All this to say: She was a very attractive lady and I obsessed over this issue for a week or so, but I've never felt any romantic attraction to her. In fact, having met her once I found that I don't even like her!

Nah. Not for me. Any obsessions I have with people are probably all romantic, or that I'd like them to somehow become romantic.

I have a strong interest in the accomplishments of Roger Bannister. He is married and almost 80 years old, so there couldn't be a romantic attachment. However, I would like to find someone my own age with his qualities.

I have had non-romantic obsessions, mostly when I was younger. They were all like special interests, generally people I didn´t know personally, often people who were no longer living, or even from different centuries. They were probably role models, as I was forging my own personality. I was obsessed with Vincent Van Gogh for awhile; also with the pharaoh Ramses the second, when I was going through my "Egypt phase"- (I used to dress up like him and pretend to be him).

I was even obsessed with a fictional character once: Scarlett O´hara, after watching the film "Gone With The Wind".

Same. My hormonal changes really made the obsessions weird for me in throwing them back and forth from being non-romantic to romantic.

I confess I am similar, though I don't think the person is ever totally objectified in my eyes, as it's their humane and inner qualities that interest and affect me the most.

It is like the person is a house or a building and I am wandering around the hallways and rooms, looking through the drawers and cupboards, making a mental list of everything I find and wondering about the story behind each item.

And sometimes I find a house or building I am not content just to stare through the windows of and I gather up the courage to try to walk through the door. And then, once inside, I find it impossible to leave.

All the time D: I figured it's because I want to be their friend... a lot.