I tend to stray away from the 'herd'...

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I can relate. When I'm ate school, I can act social, but when I'm not I keep away from every social occasion. I have difficulties attending them, and I simply don't like it, I must have a lot of time on my own or else my mood goes downhill very fast. I don't seek social contact outside of school, and I don't nedd it, really. I don't think I'm actually capable of seeking the contact. Like when I'd like to ask someone to do something fun I don't dare since I think the person might not be pleased with that and my presence.

I just don't like it. When I'm not at school I am totally isolated and I like it. I don't need to be social and I don't like it. School is more than enough for me. I think that I get less isolated after a couple of years when I go to college and get a job, but I'm not sure if it's true it makes me less isolated. It's not something I'd really like.

When I'm not placed in a social situation by the occasion and circumstances I'm not in it. The school structure forces me to be in a social situation so I am. If there were no school I'd be isolated completely. Maybe I'd have a few people I know and some frends, but not much.

Sure. Fair enough. I understand. I read a section on how to play soccer from a book once. At one point I even semi-understood some of the theory because it sort of had a similar structure to hockey (attackers at the front, defenders behind and so on).

That's all great in theory and I can understand how professional players practice for hours to hone their skills.

I could theoretically read an entire encyclopaedia on soccer and memorise all the trivia (who plays for which team, leagues and so on). I could also work out every day and practice every soccer trick under the sun, but I don't think that this kind of individualised study, although incredibly useful, would help me "follow the herd" and "click" with them. There's a missing ingredient somewhere.

It's the "kicking a soccer ball casually around a muddy school field or park" that I seem to have the problem with also. How do people know who to pass the ball to?

I've also noticed that when I've put myself in advantageous positions on the pitch, but even so, it used to be rare that anyone passed the ball to me.

Perhaps it's a subtle body language communication or relationship issues?

Also, a soccer team can be the best briefed in the world with stellar players, but if say all the players hate each other and there are personality clashes in the changing (locker) room, the whole team structure just crumbles to pieces.

This is why I don't play much soccer. I just don't like the experience of it. For me it's just too many people and too much going on at once: I can't seem to sync up.
In fact I seem to have an overwhelming inexplicable desire not to lose my own perceived identity by syncing up. In my country soccer's also sadly associated with rioting, binge drinking, drunken chanting/singing and players having extravagant lifestyles. For those that like soccer and can "sync-up" it looks they have jolly good fun when they're sensible.