Things one must say

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Did you explain to him why you didn't call him and stuff because he told you he needed space?


That's what I would've done and ask him what did he mean by it when he said it.

Yes, I did explain. He said if I really loved him, I would have automatically known what he wanted.

Back then, I knew nothing about AS, so I couldn´t defend myself and explain that I take things literally. I just thought he was a total nutcase for expecting me to read his mind. As far as I´m concerned, people like that get what they deserve...

"What's wrong?" = "Tell me what your problem is so I can tell you how wrong you are for having it."

"If you were in my shoes" means "you're a know-nothing ignoramus."

"needless to say"

lol self explanatory i think

"I don't know what to say" means "I'd better not say what I'm thinking"

I learned this at work last year.


"I will stop trying harder" means "I won't do my job and I won't even try and I will be lazy."

"I know what I would do in that situation," means "I've never experienced anything even vaugely resembling that situation."

"That's interesting," means "You're boring."

He was. People shouldn't say the opposite of what they actually mean.

I've learned that "Thanks for offering to help, but I'm ok doing this by myself" can mean "The next time you see me, I'll be sulking, and when you ask why, it'll be because you didn't help me with this."

So very true!! ! I can't believe how twisted people are in getting their point across.

Spokane Girl:

If I say "Leave me alone" or any variation thereof I mean it literally, and I'll explain that if someone's getting the wrong idea. If someone else says it, I'll take them literally and give them a wide berth till instructed otherwise. Usually when that happens, though, someone else is there to properly decode the message. I'm familiar with a lot of these hidden meanings, but I wasn't sure "leave me alone" was one of them. I still reserve the right to interpret it literally around people I dislike.

Morgana:


I don't think all NTs subscribe to the telepathic model of love. At least I hope not. I don't have the experience to say for sure. But I doubt there'd be much trouble finding a number of non-autistics who consider him a jerk or just kind of naive.

And the reply is often 'none taken', meaning the person is offended but would rather not admit to it. I've used this many times.

There's also 'maybe next time' which really means 'I don't plan on meeting up with you next time, I just want to be polite, or give you some false hope.'
My ex may have said that to me...

"Keep in touch!" means "You call me and go after me, because I won't be calling you"

Can someone explain this thread to me? Is everyone referring to things that most people say as a form of politeness which almost always means something either totally different or opposite? If so how can you be sure that your understanding is correct? And uhhh... yeah... would they be considered almost universal?

^I don't understand either, but I'm contributing anyway.

I consider myself as having been very studiously NT, as in have observed NT interaction for the purpose of simulating it in my own life, for a very long time.

I have learnt to say "We have to catch up some time!!" in an excited voice to someone I have forgotten about for a long time. I'm pretty sure it's just polite and friendly to say. Case in point: although I have said "We have to catch up some time!!" in an excited voice in very many situations, I have very seldom had to then go and actually go somewhere and drink coffee with them. Maybe that's because I've employed pensieve's phrase if/when they actually do follow up on that, and then say: "Ohh... maybe some other time."