Are people with autism borderline sociopaths?

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24 Nov 2011, 9:47 am

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Verdandi has a lot of useful and legitimate information to contribute


If by "useful and legitimate information" you mean distortion, spin, arbitrary rationalization, etc. then, yes, I agree.



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24 Nov 2011, 9:53 am

Poke wrote:
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Verdandi has a lot of useful and legitimate information to contribute


If by "useful and legitimate information" you mean distortion, spin, arbitrary rationalization, etc. then, yes, I agree.

i haven't seen you providing any scholarly information that opposes her points. you attack her personally instead of attacking her arguments, and i think that could speak volumes as to what you are really trying to accomplish. if you would also like to be taken seriously, i would suggest that you approach the debate intellectually instead of trying to undermine her character.



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24 Nov 2011, 9:56 am

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"both my intent and the research itself were badly misinterpreted"--of course.

You simply can't be taken seriously.


Poke wrote:
If by "useful and legitimate information" you mean distortion, spin, arbitrary rationalization, etc. then, yes, I agree.


Mostly, I let the record speak for itself.

As far as it goes, though, my days of not taking you seriously have certainly come to a middle.



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24 Nov 2011, 11:42 am

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Simplified, over the years my understanding went from "my environment is inhabited by loud, unpredictable things I ignore when I feel like it" to "they're humans like me" and eventually arrived at "they're people whose opinions and emotions usually follow very predictable patterns that - ironically - most of them don't even seem to be aware of".


Ha! Yes.



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24 Nov 2011, 12:50 pm

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Clearly its more interesting to debate the different interpretations, and its simply poor thinking to simply say "unintentionally got the cup, intentionally spent the extra dollar" is the logical answer.

But I have to say that mine is the 100% the NT response. Its fascinating. I look at it again and again and I can not truly commit to an alternative to the NT logic. Then at least I do know its flawed not to explore the reasoning from Aspie brains that are generally seen as being more innately driven by logic. Heads gonna explode. Its too weird.


Let me see if I can help you out...

Lets say you're on your way home from work and your car breaks down. You call the nearest towing service and have your car towed to the nearest dealership mechanic. You then have to call for a family member to come pick you up and drive you home. This makes your family member late for his scheduled doctors appointment.

Was your riding home with this family member intentional?

My brain can see paying the extra dollar for the cup the same way, as an unplanned and unfortunate necessity en-route to an unchanged original goal.

It seems like what's going on is my brain can interpret "intentional" as have two separate, but possibly overlapping, meanings.

1.) Something is intentional if it conforms to a preconceived plan or scheme.
2.) Something is intentional if it is done willfully.

It seems like in the free cup story the NT brain can only interpret the question in the context of meaning 2. When I read the question I felt slightly confused by it. My immediate reaction was "what's the point of this question, is the author trying to trick me somehow?". After the first story my mind jumped to the thought "Was there ever some kind of scheme to obtain the free cup? .... Of course not! ... It was entirely incidental." After reading the second story my mind was already thinking in a parallel manner "Was there ever some kind of scheme to pay an extra dollar? ... Of course not! ... Who in their right mind would want to pay more for something? ... He obviously didn't know ahead of time that the vendor had raised the price."

So obviously in interpreting the question I was drawn to meaning 1 rather than meaning 2 in the first story. In the first story 1 and 2 give the same answer - unintentional. Obtaining the free cup was neither willful nor planned. However the second story has a different answer depending on the precise meaning of "intentional". Paying the extra dollar was willful but it wasn't planned.

The reason why we interpret the question differently still baffles me a bit.



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24 Nov 2011, 12:57 pm

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All while not emotionally processing what Theygomew said, otherwise you would see how these clash hard enough to be mutually exclusive, unless you have Dissociative Identity Disorder.......................


I don't think NPD and autism are mutually exclusive. I am fairly certain that HPD and autism probably are. I found some research to this effect awhile back, although the last time I quoted it both my intent and the research itself were badly misinterpreted.


:lol:

"both my intent and the research itself were badly misinterpreted"--of course.

You simply can't be taken seriously.

Verdandi has a lot of useful and legitimate information to contribute, and members do take her quite seriously. on the other hand, someone who seems to have a strange tendency to seek out her posts to nip at her heels and target her on a personal level (as opposed to intellectually addressing her points) is taken a lot less seriously.
+1



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24 Nov 2011, 12:59 pm

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The reason why we interpret the question differently still baffles me a bit.


I couldn't let it go. I think whatever the solution is will be an important crowbar into human perception.



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24 Nov 2011, 1:30 pm

fraac wrote:
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The reason why we interpret the question differently still baffles me a bit.


I couldn't let it go. I think whatever the solution is will be an important crowbar into human perception.


One thing I noticed is definition 1 is completely unambiguous. You either planned something or you didn't.

The question of willful intent OTOH is very murky. In a lot cases there is clearly an attached moralizing tendency. There is a clear bias towards saying an act is intentional when the outcome is harmful vs when the outcome is neutral or positive, even when the level of knowledge is the same in all three cases. There was a paper demonstrating this posted in another thread. Don't have the energy to dig it back up at the moment though. It clearly shows that the notion of willful intent is in part a social construct with a strong connection with the need to assign moral responsibility to certain actions.



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24 Nov 2011, 2:06 pm

I've read the other papers, by Knobe and those people. There was an inconsistency they were struggling to deal with, which I think got fixed if you saw ToM as just another value system.

Actually I'll start a new thread.



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24 Nov 2011, 2:33 pm

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In order to manipulate people you need to be able to entertain them and lavish them with attention


That's psychopath style. It works but it's crude and takes a lot of energy, you don't want to drop the facade. BPD style might be more accessible for us, it's more like counterpunching, you just read people and give them what they want - or better yet what they need. They come back for more because nobody else understands them. I've always been good at realtime riding of psychic pressure waves, conversationally, probably because I assume that people should be grateful to talk to me. It takes me completely out of my head, I can do witty banter without thinking about it. I really believe we can all do this when distracted from ourselves.


Meh. I'll never be able to do "witty banter" properly for most groups. If I'm really open about it my sense of humor is either extremely dark/cutting/sarcastic or it's off-the-wall silliness that nobody else gets. I can't be so fake as to tell jokes that might be funny to others and pretend to laugh with them when in reality I don't find them funny at all. I suppose some jokes don't have to be funny or break people into laughter. A lot of times the attempted humor only serves as a tool to keep a conversation from getting too heavy or awkward. I understand the purpose but I still feel fake doing it and it drains on me. I find the masks annoying at times when I can't break through. A lot of people easily rub off on me as jerkily flippant and emotionally evasive/dismissive when I'm not in the best mood.

If I really wanted to be evil and manipulate people I would be more of the propaganda artist or demagogue. :twisted:



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24 Nov 2011, 2:36 pm

Poke wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Verdandi has a lot of useful and legitimate information to contribute


If by "useful and legitimate information" you mean distortion, spin, arbitrary rationalization, etc. then, yes, I agree.


Please refrain from insulting cats. :cat:



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24 Nov 2011, 2:37 pm

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BPD is interesting as a spectrum. It's like autism in that it includes people I consider brilliantly sane and complete nutjobs, and the only difference seems to be basic level of intelligence.

If you've seen this: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/exp ... s-syndrome ...you'll know that nobody knows how it works.


Surely some research group has lots of real data on lots of different thinking and that test? Or is all that they know.
NT - cup not intentional, dollar intentional,
AS - both not intentional?

i get soooooo confused by this. as far as i can tell, he INTENDS to get the biggest drink possible, price and freebies notwithstanding. i based my conclusion on the information provided... the author tells us Joe's intention in the statement "Joe was feeling quite dehydrated, so he stopped by the local smoothie shop to buy the largest sized drink available".

can someone please explain to me how they came to any other conclusion?



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24 Nov 2011, 2:44 pm

You can 'intend' to do everything you actually do. That's why it's an odd way to see it, if you ask me. By that definition of intent, how do you unintentionally do things that aren't by accident? It would be impossible so the question has no meaning. The only version of the question that admits both possible answers is where intent = plan. Autistic ToM looks into the mind of the storyteller, not the characters in the story. (Another reason Jesus was autistic, btw.)



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24 Nov 2011, 3:32 pm

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You can 'intend' to do everything you actually do. That's why it's an odd way to see it, if you ask me. By that definition of intent, how do you unintentionally do things that aren't by accident? It would be impossible so the question has no meaning. The only version of the question that admits both possible answers is where intent = plan. Autistic ToM looks into the mind of the storyteller, not the characters in the story. (Another reason Jesus was autistic, btw.)

ok, i think i am halfway to understand this, thank you.

so if i accept that he intended to pay an extra dollar (because he actually did it), why wouldn't i also accept that he intended to accept a commemorative cup (because he actually did it)?



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24 Nov 2011, 3:41 pm

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so if i accept that he intended to pay an extra dollar (because he actually did it), why wouldn't i also accept that he intended to accept a commemorative cup (because he actually did it)?


Perhaps it is because the decision to receive the fancy cup or not was out of his control (decided by the service worker), whereas the decision to pay the extra dollar was withing his control (could have left and gone to different store.) Really, though, he could've refuse the fancy cup and gone somewhere else as well, so accepting the fancy cup had to be intentional as well.

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24 Nov 2011, 3:54 pm

The cup was incidental. The extra dollar was instrumental in obtaining the smoothie. Or that's how Machery and Knobe explain that. Good point though, I never thought about where we answered the same but maybe for different reasons.