What AS traits do you seem to be lacking?

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Intelligence.

I kid. I kid.

Erm, I think I have the lot except I know when I bore people so I don't monologue that much and I know what would offend not offend somebody. I haven't always been that way though.
And despite me wanting to learn it doesn't always stick in my memory. I don't have amazing rote memory in other words.

Monotone voice, lack of understanding of humour.

I tend to be quite good at recognising facial expressions/faux pas, too. But that's conciously learnt/systemised coping mechanisms.

Too many un-AS qualities list them all, but here's what comes to mind:

Sensory issues "faded" to at least a manageable level somewhere in adolescence
Few / no meltdowns
Can make decent small talk
No trouble with eye contact
No Aspie stare
No monotone voice (though I do have some issues regulating the volume and "sing-songiness" of my voice)
Clumsy but not incapacitatingly so
Subtle / non-stereotypical stims

Not sure if I have a funny gait or not... I do know that I walk incredibly fast, even for someone of my height.

I'm good at reading faces, though not at recognizing them. Don't take things literally. Get sarcasm. Have developed empathy, though later than usual. Don't *think* I speak in a monotone. Am very affectionate, though I've realized recently that I don't like to be touched unexpectedly or by strangers.

I developed a theory, after reading All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome, that there are "dog" Aspies and "cat" Aspies. The cat Aspies are the kind we usually think of, but then there are Aspies who tend to be boisterous and overshare and are physically affectionate and have extravagent crushes and want to be more social but aren't any good at it. I am more of a dog type, my son can be either, depending on his mood. We are both sensory-seekers, which may have something to do with it.

I don't fixate on special interests to the point that they are all I want to think about/talk about. I did when I was a kid, but less so as I get older.

I like to read fiction, especially fantasy. Science bores me, for the most part. The only non-fiction I read are biographies of the Tudors (that would be a special interest I don't talk about incessantly).

I am a practicing Christian. I do not value facts over faith.

Everything besides the rigid routines fit me quite well.
I am not very rigid at all.
I only get stressed when I cannot find something.
But I have a diagnosis of PDD-NOS.
Because I did not fit all the criteria.
From May 2013 onwards, I will have nothing.
Although I will be far from normal, no diagnosis can be made (that I know of) because PDD-NOS will be removed from the DSM-V.
But that is okay.
I am actually quite amazing at recognizing faces, much more so than names.
But pictures are not always easier to remember than numbers.
Actually, they usually are not.
But faces are easy because they have a lot of details and discerning features.
Numbers are easy because they never change.

No prosopagnosia whatsoever.
Can talk about other things aside from special interests for short periods of time (but it annoys and depresses me.)
Can read some facial expressions in isolation but not in tandem with conversation, verbal utterances and other extraneous input. (So basically I can score ok on a facial exprssions test, but my abilities in real life do not match up.)

I understand sarcasm and social niceties when other people are disobeying them.

i'm good at reading nonverbal cues, even if i cannot copy them.

when i actually knew what the purpose of nonverbal cues were, they made much more sense instead of just being random "things"

I think I have them all to a certain extent, well, the core ones anyway.

So, I don't think I lack any.

I don't have any sensory or tactile issues.

I was somewhat of a bully in high school.

I'm very social and have many friends, am good at conversational skills, understand sarcasm and social nuances, don't talk about my interests very much, have controlled my meltdowns (for the most part), no sensory sensitivties (other than my picky eating)...the list goes on. But although much of my AS traits have faded, I still believe I have it, and still I identify with the disorder as I have been diagnosed.

I don't have any sensory problems. (Actually, I think I do, but not the ones I've read about.)

I am not literal. I understand the metaphors and such.

I don't think I don't understand social cues (but I probably don't.)