Childfree by choice

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There ya go. I agree.

I don't want a parasitical human larva living in my body for nine months.

I have no plans to have children. For one, I do not have the patience to be a parent, and for another, I see a child, like a house, as an anchor on my mobility. Besides, I feel a child nowadays is best served by a hyper-enriching experience I cannot provide. My grandparents were the last generation where large families were common, and children were seen mostly as breadwinners. As we have fewer and fewer children, we need to devout more time and resources to the children so they can compete. I feel that is better left to others more qualified than I am. I do want to play a part in financing my nieces' and nephews' educations, though.

This reason for not having children is valid and just because this is part of the list does not mean the original poster has a prejudice. It could just mean that the OP would be unable to take care of someone that is disabled, physically or mentally, and might also be considering the possibility of bringing a child into this world, only to live a life of misery. Wouldn't it be better to abort a pregnancy "in time" before the child can be born into a miserable life? In my opinion, yes it would.



All of these reasons are all very good reasons and would all fit into my list. As far as #7 goes, I've never changed a diaper and I DON'T PLAN TO!! !

Another good reason to add to the list would be 9: The Earth is already far too overpopulated and adding another child to it would just fill up the world some more. It will be one more person using up what is left of the Earth's resources.

I never wanted kids and soon I'll be getting a hysterectomy and will never have to worry about getting pregnant again.

I don't have sex any more and never want to again but if I was raped I'd get the morning after pill and then take pregnancy tests until I was sure I wasn't pregnant to get an abortion as early as possible.

When I was younger, I had no real interest in the opposite sex. The idea of having sex with a guy was not... appealing. But then I wasn't fantasing about women either. I just wasn't ready. When I was finally ready for sex because I'd found the right guy for me I knew I was Autistic and knew that I had trouble taking care of myself, there'd be no way I could handle being a mom too. And now, I'm on the verge of being too old to have kids and have also had issues that lessened my fertility so... even if I wanted kids now, I'd be unlikely to be able to have them.

*Raises hand* I'm definitely childfree by choice. There was never a moment in my life that I wanted children. Even from as far back as when I just found out the concept of childbirth and pregnancy I told everyone that I wanted nothing to do with that. Many people said "Oh, you'll change your mind someday!" Well, here I am at 27 and my mind has certainly NOT changed.

Here are my reasons:

-I have no maternal instinct and babies repulse me. I'm also not too keen on the idea of dealing with diaper blowouts and having to baby proof an entire house

-I'm asexual. I don't want penises anywhere near me. I have had sex before so I can at least say I gave it a shot, and I hated it. Never again.

-The first nice thing of mine a child ends up destroying (especially if it's my computer) = me leaving a crater on this planet.

-I cannot stand the crying and the noise. I'd be in a constant state of meltdown mode.

-I HATE the toddler stage in which they turn into brats for a few years. After the first tantrum I'd end up on the 5 o'clock news.

-We are currently living in a society that is afraid of disciplining their children. I don't want to have to deal with some a**hole calling the police on me because I happend to spank my kid on their behind as discipline over trying to play Dr. Phil to a 3 year old.

-Even if you do a near perfect job raising them, there is no guarantee they won't stab you in the back and completely betray you.

-The world in its current state is a horrible place for any child. Morals and common decency have gone down the toilet. I wouldn't want to raise a kid in an environment where oversexualized "music" and unintelligent "reality tv" is being shoved down our throats nonstop. It would be especially terrible to have a daughter in this society. There are absolutely ZERO role models for girls out there. I don't count those future crack addict "Disney" child stars as role models.

-Childbirth feaks me the f**k out.

-The thought of having something living inside me freaks me the f**k out.

-Children are selfish and greedy. Not exactly their fault, though. They are all naturally that way for a while but that doesn't mean I would want to deal with it.

-"Pregnancy weight gain." I have worked extremely hard to get my body where it is today. No way in hell am I throwing all that hard work away for a half genetic copy.

-I never wanted marriage or a family. I find relationships to be a pointless waste of time and a hindrance to my hobbies and special interests.

-The world is massively overpopulated. The last thing I want to do would be to contribute to the problem. People are having way too many children as it is, and there are so many children that should be adopted.

-Having a child = kiss your "you" time goodbye.

-I live with my mom. I was never able to strike it out on my own.

-Children are massively expensive. I can't afford it on my freelance artist income.

With that being said, I'm quite happy with my cats being my children replacements.

I'm childless, because I'm 15 .

I don't think I will have kids in the future, because...
A) I like my spending time on myself.
B) It's unlikely that I'll ever be able to finically support a child (or at-least have as much money as I'd like to spend on a kid).
C) I don't think I could cope the emotional side of things.
D) I, and many other family members are extremely prone to depression, and I don't want to risk putting my child through what I've been through, seeing as it's very genetic.
E) I think I have many other hidden conditions which are yet to be discovered, and they could be genetic.
F) I haven't been able to deal with my own life, so I doubt I'd be-able to look after someone else's.
G) I'd feel like a failure if they weren't as intelligent as I am, or didn't get a good job ect.
H) What if I die, then what? I know better than some 'normal' family who'll adopt them on how to look after someone with my genetic needs.
I) I'm afraid of having a severely autistic child, I don't respond to therapy, which is fine if your autism is as mild as mine, but not if you can't speak ect.

I don't even know if I'll ever find someone to have a kid with. <--- I really shouldn't be saying that at 15 .

I have no children simply because I never had the desire to have them. I'm not good with babies; I don't know what to do with them. Now that I'm older, I enjoy the role of 'grandmother' quite a bit. I like to crochet and knit baby clothes and toys to give away to poor mothers. But I'm not going to babysit, no thanks!

Basically others have touched on the same issues.

1. It's a good day when I can care for myself. Adding a child into this will inevitably complicate this.

2. I have a birthdaughter (she'll turn 8 in december). My genetics are not great, and while I love her, she is very LFA and nonverbal, and I still cannot care for her nonetheless care for a NT child. Even more complicating matters, is that when you have a risk of a special needs child, there are less people there available willing to adopt. Adoption, despite what people think is not a magic button. It takes a lot to go through it emotionally, and if she was ever placed in a bad home I could never forgive myself for it. I don't think I could go through it again.

3. Women told me that when I gave birth that I would be magically affected by this desire to parent. They were wrong. I never got such desire.

4. sensory issues. I love kids, don't get me wrong, but after 4 hours, they eventually have to go home for my brain to recover from it so I can be a tolerable personable human being again. I have two nieces and two nephews (aged 3-12) and they can tell you how I am and that I am a wonderful auntie who will get in the floor and play with them, but when I become overstimulated I become a stimming wreck who needs to get away from it all.

5. independence and finances are an issue. when we're ready to financially, bf will get a vasectomy. It just seems like it's taking a while to get where we need to be.

First it requires 2 people to have children. so thats the first challenge.

Second challenge is, would i really wanna risk getting kids that might end up like me or worse is that fair to them, in a world that can barely help normal people.

Third challenge is if i really have what it takes to raise a kid or kids, life it hard enough to just get outside once in a while, shop for food. taking care of kid(s), helping to raise, all the things with school. It just would never work.

There many more reasons as well, having to take care of it, the noise, cant get the sleep.

So its by choice and my circumstance as well.

My choice is not relevant. I would not be a fit parent. I know this. It would negligent for me to conceive a child.

LOL, AMEN! that's it exactly (and I'm 45, and I haven't changed my mind yet, and I aint gonna)

I can think of five reasons off the top of my head.

1. I can barely stand spending a few days out of the year with the four young kids that my cousin has. Their house is bigger then the one I grew up in and yet is still more crowded and chaotic.
2. The noise, the noise, the noise
3. I'd make a terrible father since I struggle to look after myself let alone some one who depends of me
4. The human race is going down the tubes and I have no desire to add to the mess
5. $$$$$$$$$$

People told me that too when I was pregnant but I didn't feel anything when I gave birth and gave them up for adoption. The adoption agency came to see me in the hospital the day after I gave birth and they had me pick out a couple from a book.

Reasons why it is not a good idea for me to have children:

They can get dirty, or leave you rather dirty jobs to do (I'm obsessed with germs and washing my hands)
I can barely tolerate my siblings, who can hardly leave me alone
I like alone time. After a few years, I'll get some because of children being at school and stuff, but until then...
I get stressed and wouldn't know how to cope
It's hard for me to get a boyfriend
Having to sort out money problems

Yet despite all of this, I still want to have children. I guess it's what my heart says, even though my head may say different. I want to continue my dad's side of the family, since none of his brothers have children (I'm his only child, my siblings have a different dad to me), and it seems likea normal part of life. And I wantto prove that people can enjoy themselves and be successful in life and still have children.