Can you lie?

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As I've gotten older I've gotten better at 'presentation'. I've learned that another's response to a situation is often more important than any words being said so I have gotten better at picking words that aren't exactly lies but aren't the glaring truth.

Another thing is that I've noticed is my ideas about what is true aren't always accurate so insisting that I always tell the truth would require that my truth is THE truth. I am much more aware of the particular situation I am responding to than I used to be.

I can, of course, but I feel such incredible guilt over it that I rarely do. People tell me I'm TOO honest about myself.

Yes, at about the age of 8 I used to be honest about EVERYTHING, until I taught myself how to lie and everyone believes me now.
But not about things that are really relevant, I can make up a whole story about why I didn't hand in my homework because I know they won't take the real reason as an excuse, but I can't lie about things like 'My daddy's so rich' or 'In my life I've had about 13 boyfriends'.
Mainly because I think those lies are useless and don't benefit me for anything.
I'll only lie about myself to others about things they won't get hurt over, and that won't change their lives.
But I'm an excellent liar at that, I can make a whole scene around that lie, and I'll actually start believing it myself.

I'm a good liar, but I rarely lie. I tend to answer truthfully even for answers that would cause me embarassment. No idea why.

But I have no problem ommiting the truth or stating it in vague terms. One of my favorite tricks is never answering more than it was asked for. An example: someone asks me if I know which time it is. My reply will be simply "yes, I know". After all, the person didn't ask what time it was, only if I knew it. So yeah...

I am physically capable of it, but I find it difficult and it pains me in some inexplicable way.

Yes I can.

I got hit by a car and I flew in the air and into the river.

That was easy to type.

A couple of times in my life I had to lie for something that was kind of important. Both situations were on the phone.
I had to reset my memories in order to put that lie as some kind of truth. Wrote the script on a piece of paper and told my wife to get lost, because it would make me very ashamed and uneasy.

It made me feel sick for many day, both times.

I hope I don't have to do that never more in my life.

This is weird. I'm an insanely good liar.

I suppose I can on some level. I could as a child, and did, until it was explained to me that if you lie even once in a while, people won't trust you and won't know whether you're telling the truth and won't believe you even when you are telling the truth. Then I decided that I wouldn't lie anymore. Since then I've occasionally said things that I know aren't true without thinking about it, but I've practically never lied on purpose. I even have a hard time lying in games where that's an expected part of game play. It feels wrong.

So I suppose I'm cognitively capable of lying but nearly incapable of lying on some other level.

Some people who know me were surprised to find that I used to be capable of lying - they thought that I had never learnt to lie.

Anyone can lie really But I am NOT good at it. Not at all. I learned from childhood that lying is something I am bad at therefore do not do it because it only gets you in trouble. If you are a bad liar, then I suggest you stick to honesty, epecially when you aren't good at hiding your embarassment, shame and guilt. Yeah, I learned that at a young age and I'm grateful for it! I hate lying. I mean white lies have to be said once in a while to spare others' feelings and that isn't as bad, but blatant lying, I hate it and can't do it.

i can lie but not brilliantly.

Sure, I can lie, but I don't because I'm lousy at it, and I got caught every time when I was a kid. What's ironic and insulting about this is, I get SUSPECTED of lying all the time, and I don't lie! Store clerks are afraid to take my credit card in case it's stolen or something, and police always suspect that my driver's license is a fake, or that I'm a criminal on the run, etc. I've never stolen anything in my life (except maybe a couple of habanero peppers from the neighbor's farm, LOL), and I've never been a criminal on the run. So I don't get it.......

Charles