Has anyone called you the big R word?

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One person did. I punched him to the floor.

My best friend says it jokingly and she has Asperger's and I say it to her too so that's fine.

Oh yes. Someone even whispered it to me while I was with my mum.

yeah. by my sister after i was diagnosed. every once in a while we would argue and she would call me a ret*d and then remember that i have "that thing" and be all like "oh yeah, you are a ret*d". i explained to her that having aspergers did not make me intellectually dificient and that my iq needed to be average and up for me to have it but morons never listen. besides that her average mark was a C or D and mine were A and B so take that. my dad asks me if i say things sometimes if i am ret*d. the only time i got asked if i was a ret*d by anyone else was by a classmate when i was pulling a stick on an arcade game up and down and watching/feeling it twang. yes, it is most ironic that these people did not perform as well, acedemically, as their target. everyone else knew what marks i was getting and what marks they were getting. they couldn't say anything.

Sometimes all of this IQ talk makes me wonder... Think about how you'd feel if you were ret*d and your diagnosis constantly got used as an insult, and people's response wasn't to say, "How is that supposed to be an insult?" but instead to say, "No, I'm not ret*d! My IQ is 120!" or whatever their IQ happens to be.

When you try to remove yourself from the "ret*d" category in response to having that used as an accusation or insult, you leave unaddressed the implication that "ret*d" is a bad thing to be. It's like responding to prejudice against black people by reminding others that you're not black. Even if it's true and you're as white as they come, it's still missing the point. While you as a white person wouldn't deserve that prejudice, neither does the black person who's getting targeted too. Much better to team up and work together rather than push away the categories more stigmatized than your own.

I was asked:
Are you a ret*d or something?

I answered: Probably.
They said no more.....ever about it.

I was being sarcastic. I've been called a ret*d and a imbecile from childhood to adulthood.
That was just the latest.
The words have no meaning, (create no feeling of hurt), for me anymore.

I was once called a spastic freak here on WP. Spastic is slang for ret*d in Britain. I really didn't appreciate it.

When I was in the navy I was doing summer duties on my ship ( 2 days duties/ 2 days off) and a guy in my mess asked me if I wanted to spend the 2 days at his seeing as it was too far to travel to my own home. We went out drinking in Weymouth and I remember him introducing me to his friends and he told them not to mind me because I was slow. That kinda put me off the guy in question, I stopped having anything to do with him after that.


Otherwise I've been called a R a few times here and there. It doesn't bother me too much though, I'm far from stupid so it's never bothered me. Slow is a little close for comfort though.

Unfortunately... I am Italian. I also have a complicated last name. Some people would just make a parody of my last name when "ret*d" didn't work.

Insultee: Hey, Sernipotty!

Me: It's Serniotti, dimwit.

Insultee: So

Me: *punches in the face*

Nah, the word is not as much used in my native language as it is in english.
The closest have been, and they are still far from it, have been when I had to work with the school cooks for a day instead of a normal school day in elementary school, one of the cooks thought I was foreign and couldn't understand well what they were saying and such.
Another was when my singing teacher had called my mother after I had been to her lessons, (and I just recently found out that she had, I never heard of this) and asked my mother what's wrong with me, said that I look like an adult but act like a child (Ow...Now that's embarassing. I know I acted very awkward in there.), and whether I have Asperger's. My mother was offended, apparently.
I don't remember much from my childhood, perhaps someone called me stupid at some time, I don't remember anymore.

Oh wait. I do remember being called a ret*d in some MMO because I got distracted by a thought for a second and didn't take action because of that.
Also a reason why I shouldn't play such games.