05 Aug 2011, 12:24 pm
05 Aug 2011, 12:28 pm
Barclay Syndrome 
that actor portrays it so well lol.
Callista wrote:
But I don't want a girlfriend.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
Perhaps because no matter what you achieve in life it will be meaningless without having someone to share it with (and then there's the procreation part).
05 Aug 2011, 1:20 pm
05 Aug 2011, 1:50 pm
05 Aug 2011, 1:58 pm
Callista wrote:
I do one day want to have a (platonic) relationship and a family; but the way I figure it, you really can't pin all your hopes for meaning on another person. They're only human, same as you are, and if they're only human, no matter how nice they are, they're not strong enough or perfect enough to carry all your hopes plus their own.
It would be a crushing responsibility having to be the person who makes somebody else's life meaningful. What a burden.
05 Aug 2011, 2:29 pm
05 Aug 2011, 6:03 pm
Callista wrote:
I'm going to invent things and share them with the whole world. Doesn't that count?
I do one day want to have a (platonic) relationship and a family; but the way I figure it, you really can't pin all your hopes for meaning on another person. They're only human, same as you are, and if they're only human, no matter how nice they are, they're not strong enough or perfect enough to carry all your hopes plus their own.
I do one day want to have a (platonic) relationship and a family; but the way I figure it, you really can't pin all your hopes for meaning on another person. They're only human, same as you are, and if they're only human, no matter how nice they are, they're not strong enough or perfect enough to carry all your hopes plus their own.
Having browsed your blog I get the feeling that when you meet someone that is your intellectual partner in crime & debate you'll understand
05 Aug 2011, 7:34 pm
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05 Aug 2011, 10:36 pm
Callista wrote:
But I don't want a girlfriend.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
I tried to express to my mother my confusion and disbelief that people would make this so important and she agreed that it was a severely horrible thing.
I do not understand that perspective at all.
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06 Aug 2011, 12:29 am
06 Aug 2011, 1:37 am
Callista wrote:
But I don't want a girlfriend.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
i agree about the more to life part, because i'm am girl.
06 Aug 2011, 4:07 am
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06 Aug 2011, 4:37 am
Janissy wrote:
Callista wrote:
I do one day want to have a (platonic) relationship and a family; but the way I figure it, you really can't pin all your hopes for meaning on another person. They're only human, same as you are, and if they're only human, no matter how nice they are, they're not strong enough or perfect enough to carry all your hopes plus their own.
It would be a crushing responsibility having to be the person who makes somebody else's life meaningful. What a burden.
The comments posted above follow a common theme that many "proud" autistics use to dismiss the pain of loneliness that we face.
I find this line of reasoning misses the point, and is unhelpful.
It seems to me that the people who express it view social interaction as a kind of entertainment or optional triviality that can be cut out of one's life with little effect.
My meaning in life is not necessarily dependent on having any one person being a friend or romantic partner (though such people can add alot to the value of one's life).
Rather, companionship is a need that we as social creatures are mentally programmed to seek out.
As with other needs, my meaning in life is not dependent upon sleeping or eating, yet I suffer tremendously if I am denied these things for an extended period of time.
Its like telling an insomniac on a support forum for sleep disorders to just suck it up and learn to live without sleep.
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06 Aug 2011, 4:51 am
Callista wrote:
But I don't want a girlfriend.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
What is it with people being so utterly obsessed with finding somebody they can lock lips with? Really? There's more to life than that.
You are a self-proclaimed asexual, therefore you can't understand.
What I can't understand are the asexuals who disregard the suffering of the involuntary celibates.
I'm a guy so I have never experienced the hormonal and mood swings of woman going through her cycle, but I'm not going to tell a woman to just get over it because I don't have those experiences.
