Ria1989 wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Some things that can sound perfectly nice can be insults depending on where you live. Where I live, "Bless your heart" is an insult, but it's said very sweetly. Calling someones hairstyle or outfit "precious", unless it's a child, is an insult.
Frances
I can see the precious one, but is the bless your heart one only an insult in a specific context and sarcastic tone? Or do people avoid it all costs no matter how it is said. It makes me wonder if every time I've heard it, it was an insult.
It depends on where you are from and who is saying it. If you are from the Deep South, it's usually an insult or at least means something along the lines of "You just don't know any better". It can also mean "I appreciate the thought, but the action was completely wrong".
An example would be "JoAnne, bless her heart, gave me a set of plastic dishes from K-Mart for my bridal shower, when I'm registered at Macy's and she could have gotten something smaller there for the same price!" Which would mean "JoAnnes gift was totally inappropriate, but she didn't know any better and I appreciate her effort."
Or, if someone insults you outright, such as "You go to Hell!" you can answer back with "Well, bless your heart" while smiling sadly and shaking your head, which is a nice way to tell them that they are wrong and just don't know any better.
It's not an insult like calling someone a name, it's more of an insult of someone's intelligence or understanding of how things are done. I used to get it a lot before I figured things out. I've always known what it meant though, mainly because it was explained to me when I was a child.
Frances