Is not finding babies cute an Aspie trait?

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Me too. I don't like human babies and they don't provoke any kind of positive response in me. I just see them as ugly noisy dependent little humans.

I actually find baby animals adorable and feel the "maternal instinct" towards them that I assume that "normal" women feel towards human babies. I find baby rat pinkies adorable even though they have no fur and their little eyes and ears are closed. When I hear a human baby cry it just irritates me. When I heard the baby squirrel's distress call after it fell out of the nest it just broke my heart and I would have ran out to help it had I not known that the mother was nearby in a tree.

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Last edited by hanyo on 14 Feb 2012, 4:43 am, edited 1 time in total.

It's a trait I share. Infants are just little screaming stinking excrement factories as far as I'm concerned.

I didn't when I had one.

I also think in some of my baby pictures I look like a freak. My head looks so big and long and I was really fat as a baby until I started walking.

I find them quite bad looking to be honest, not to mention the crying and the head-ache it causes.

And when they grow up it doesn't really get better to me for most of them, until they're 18 or so...

I had trouble with young people when I was young myself, hence why I'm writing this reply.

Wow! Thanks for all the replies (and the cute pictures and video). Whie my aversion to babies might be related to my personal Aspie diagnosis (I think I'm afraid to get too close to them because I might not be the best of mothers with my social cluelessness and general absent mindedness), it's probably not an Aspie specific trait.

They look a bit cute as newborns, but it's not for a few months, or even a year until I find them very adorable.

As with kittens, I don't think I ever saw one that's not cute.

I loathe babies. The way most neurotypical women "ooh" and "ah" over them is just nauseating to me. Whenever a co-worker brings in their newborn to show it off, I don't even bother acknowledging that. I say "hi" to the woman and keep on going! I adore baby animals. They are so sweet. But the only time a baby is cute is when it's asleep. And even then, a sleeping baby doesn't make me get all fuzzy inside like a baby animal. Or an animal at any age. Baby animals are soft, cuddly, loving, intelligent, and relatively quiet. Human babies make awful noise and have no brain development other than making germy bodily fluids. No thanks.

I've never even held a baby unless you count the time someone shoved one in my lap and took a picture. I didn't hold it though.

Some babies are very cute. But some make me feel sick.

Not all people think all babies are cute.

I don't find human babies attractive to look at in the least. In my opinion, they're second only to baby birds in hideousness. (Baby birds are pretty gross before they get their feathers). I love just about every other baby mammal, though.

I wish this had a poll, it would be interesting to see a synopsis of the results. I don't think its a matter of "all apies dislike babies" but I will say, though, that it seems more common among ASD's than NT's. Then again, many NT's wouldn't give you an honest answer if they thought babies weren't cute so who knows. I can tell you that my whole life I've been expressing my aversion to babies and being a mother and I've never had a single female agree with me until I found this site. So that might mean something.

Agree. There is a picture of me as a toddler (4 years of age?) and someone is trying to hand me my new baby cousin and I am sitting with my arms straight at my sides and looking at the camera like "You've got to be f***king kidding me." It amuses me to know I've always felt this way about babies.

They're kind of gross until they're of the age of having a full head of hair, and outgrow their strangely proportioned chubbiness.

Being around them kind of creeps me out a little. Maybe it's because of some semi-conscious worry that they might do something stupid and have an accident. Since there's so much socially perceived value all in such a small and vulnerable package, it kind of feels like babysitting a larval wasp, while sitting right next to a busy nest.

I don't like them(except my own, funny that), and never did. Babies make me extremely uncomfortable. I try to avoid people with babies as they tend to hand them over to me and expect me to cuddle them and make silly faces or something(Not gonna happen). Especially when I was pregnant, it seemed like everyone thought I would automatically like babies because I was expecting one.

I even refused to have anything to do with my own brother when he was a baby. I was 11 when he was born.

I think babies are a little overrated. They're cute, but I don't understand why other girls my age (I'm a teenager) freak out over them.

Some look cute, most don't. I don't mind them as such if they're calm and quiet but I hate being put in a situation where I am supposed to care, pretend I want to hold the baby or generally have one forced upon me.

Like when new mothers (bless 'em) insist on bringing their new baby into the workplace to be drooled over by female staff. Or so I gather. It's traditional, apparently. Sigh. Nothing much to do with ASDs I think.

My two cents on this matter:

As others have said above, it's not something that's universal for autistics. We've had another thread like this 4 years ago, in which, like above, lots of people said they found babies very cute. I wasn't one of them, though, and I'm still not. I don't hate babies either, but I do not find them cute.
I think autism may play a role in this anyway, but in conjunction with your personality. If I analyze myself, I can tell you that the REASONS I don't find babies particularly cute, stem from my autism. A baby is supposed to provoke feelings of care, and that requires a bit of empathy, which I have difficulty with.

I am also HORRIBLE with children.

I don't have a problem with young animals, though. In fact, I like them very much. I don't know what that is, I guess it could be because I don't care for most other human beings, so I turn to animals instead.