Getting Annoyed By People In The Street & Shops

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I hate people too, and I see I am not alone here.

I was actually thinking about this the other day when I went to London the other day. I can't enjoy myself anywhere near as much as I would like because I spend too much time worrying about everyone else around me
When I'm standing at a shelf looking at something and someone gets into my peripheral vision, I immedietly stop concentrating on what I'm looking at to decide on whether I need to move out the other persons way. They don't even apologise for my inconvenience (if I actually had to make a big movement to let them pass), or say thank you (I acknowledge a smile as a "thank you", so I do accept non-verbal manners).
Luckily, I live in a village, so I very rarely have to deal with things like what's been discussed. Possibly what makes venturing into the "bigger world" more stressful..

This reminds me of a thing that happened at the hardware store. I walk in to buy some paint, and there is an employee standing there who sees me then starts speaking out an advertisement from a script! What, am I supposed to just stand there like an idiot while you read a commercial to me? I already came here to buy something. I don't even watch commercials on TV without muting them! I walked right past him saying I can't do this(true), I'm in a hurry (lie).

I get really irritable with people in public. This is why I only go out now when there's reason to go out, like meeting a friend or going to my volunteer job or going to appointments, et cetera. Otherwise, I stay safe at home and let the world get on with it.

I remember one Saturday I caught the bus to a familiar town, just to get out of the house because I felt so bored. But I had an extremely bad day out, because I didn't have any purpose to go out, and I seemed to have a higher rage in me than usual. The place was busy because it was market day, and nearly everyone had a whiny toddler with them, and there was a lot of obnoxious teenagers about, and it was one of those days where people kept looking at me, then I got turfed off a bench by some snotty old woman, then I got a bus-driver I didn't like on the busride home, and there wasn't any seats left so I had to sit right at the back.... Oh dear, I was not in a very good mood, and I was drawing more attention to myself by tutting and muttering under my breath and glaring at everybody. I just can't help myself when I get in a state. I get to the point where I feel like lashing out, but I know I can't (thanks to self-control).

It seems I feel more aggressive when I go out for no purpose. If I had an appointment at the jobcentre or somewhere, even if it was just for 5 minutes and I had an hour til the next bus, I still feel less angry, even if people still irritated me. I think it's because if I don't go out for a purpose, I start getting annoyed with myself for coming out in the first place, where as when I've got jobcentre or something like that, I think, ''well I had to come out anyway, whether I wanted to or not'', so my emotions shut up a bit.

I get annoyed when people constantly stare at me as if I am an alien and I haven't even said anything or done anything to cause a scene maybe its because its abit strange to see a 39 year old woman wearing Mario, Sonic, Assassins Creed, Call of Duty, Angrey Bird and The Big Bang Theory Shirts, Jumpers and have a Yoda backpack.

I have thought about this a lot recently also and came up with some thoughts...

1st: We are meant to be slower at processing multiple information. hence, while walking through a crowd there are many people doing unpredictable movements and actions. Since we are "unconsciously aware" that we are not good at processing these sudden changes very quickly, it makes us worse at navigating through crowds. If people stuck to a predictable pattern of movement and action then it might not be so bad.
2nd: We are also bad at changing our own direction quickly as well. Apparently we can get stuck on one action/thought, etc and it is difficult for us to change that quickly. So not only are we bad at quickly processing other people's movements, we are also bad at physically adjusting our own in a timely fashion.
3rd: This then leads to greater anxiety on our behalf, and we might tend to get angry at others for "making us feel this way" (I know it is irrational, but this still seems to be the feeling associated with it), as it is a constant mental drain coupled with the fear of bumping into others, etc.

I agree, and that's exactly what I was trying to do, but that doesn't mean that the rest of the people I'm walking near get a pass to just be f*****g morons and run into me constantly. How about we try to all be courteous, rather than putting all the responsibility on the ONE GUY who's trying NOT to push and shove his way thru a crowd?

Think about it this way. You get a car and a license, and it's your responsibility to keep control of the car and make sure you don't run people over. However, we still tell people to look both ways before crossing the street because there's still this thing called personal responsibility. Everybody is supposed to have it, not just the ones who are doing things that might potentially put someone else in danger. You have to be responsible for your own s**t too.

I get annoyed by teenagers who are everywhere, dressing the same way that my peers did 20 years ago. I also get annoyed by Nt-ish women who always seem to enjoy walking into me. I step to the side as fast as I can, when I see one of those types. I also get annoyed by those people who are making up reasons to verbally abuse their children in public. I also get annoyed by skinhead wannabes who remind me of a workplace bully of mine that was fired a month ago last year. I also get annoyed by young people who use the words, Gay, ret*d and ret*d. I also get annoyed by kids in their late teens singing Top 40 songs at the top of their lungs.

I also get annoyed by homophobic characters - mainly female who go up to me complaining about the Gay Pride parade in Vancouver. I get annoyed when the same people put down Chaz Bono for having that sex change, saying that he started life out as Chastity Bono and that she never stood a chance. There I am standing there as a male trapped in a female body, having to listen to all that.