How do you know if you miss social cues?

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Well , it's possible that you don't get along with certain others- they are put off by you or find you annoying because you miss their social cues and this feels to you like your energy clashes with theirs.

My social mistakes are pointed out to me by my mum quite often. My psychologist has pointed out a couple of these too. Sometimes I have no idea what I did wrong but I just feel a bad vibe after a job interview or something and I know I've annoyed someone or someone was just put off by me or has a negative feeling towards me. It's possible they just find me an annoying person for some random reason (like how I look or dress) abut it's possible I missed a social cue/made a social mistake/said something wrong and I'll never know.

This. But most of the time, people don't tell you anything and expect you to figure it out. A person can be annoyed, upset, irritated, or bored by someone...and not say it directly. This is why I feel more people should be honest with others on the spectrum and why I always try to be, because how are people going to learn otherwise?

This. I had to learn all cues the hard way. It was painful...to the point where I stopped talking to people by the time I got to high school.

Actually, what I mean by clashing energy is not just their negative reactions. There usually isn't much of one. I mean actually engaging with most people, especially certain people, is tough and tiring, and the conversation just drops dead. I visualize it as an energy clash. What I mean by energy clashing is very difficult for me to explain. Clashing may not even be the right word.

When energy doesn't clash, the energy takes the form of swiftly moving bubbles that move swiftly between parties. When it does, it's like a morose white fog/smoke that kind of just lingers and causes dry eyes. The key distinguishing fact is that energy takes distinct shapes and moves with a purpose in the former case, and it is amorphous and torpid in the second. It's the trying to move the energy that's exhausting.

Ok, I actually even kind of see it. I have a feeling this isn't normal. Am I just crazy/creepy?

Me too, in High School I rarely talked to people. High School was the worst.