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DevilKisses
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03 Mar 2014, 12:42 pm

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I guess the other kids can just use it as more fodder for teasing/bullying. 12 year old girls are pure evil (the ones I went to school with anyway). :) Teasing wasn't the worst they did to me in middle school though, that was probably goading me into doing things that were humiliating and stupid because I was naive and believed they were my friends and wanted good things for me or giving me a "makeover" by smearing make-up all over my cheeks and forehead and then having the class look and laugh at me. I thought they really wanted to give me a makeover to help me fit in better. In elementary school kids were physically violent toward me too. So I'm not sure being called autistic would have been SO much worse. They already called me ret*d and said "run, forest, run" when they saw me running and the like.

Maybe in your case you hated your diagnosis because the kids teased you about it. I'm not sure why I hated mine when I knew there was something seriously wrong with me anyway.

Luckily I outgrew most of my naivety by the time I was twelve. I was bullied by a few people, but at least I knew that they were bullies. I tried to join a group, but I quit hanging out with them because they were playing stupid games with me. Literally and possibly figuratively.

They played this game where they were hunting for the "purple elephant." They also played this game where they looked for "sheep girl." I also quit hanging out with them because they gossiped a lot and I was afraid they would gossip about me.


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03 Mar 2014, 1:06 pm

I was getting some mowing supplies with my mother and one of the employees (I think the owner actually) told my mother that he had an autistic son too.

I didn't think I was that obvious, but then, if you know someone who displays similar symptoms, I guess it's easy to see.

It didn't bother me.



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03 Mar 2014, 1:13 pm

Dillogic wrote:
I was getting some mowing supplies with my mother and one of the employees (I think the owner actually) told my mother that he had an autistic son too.

I didn't think I was that obvious, but then, if you know someone who displays similar symptoms, I guess it's easy to see.

It didn't bother me.

Nothing like that has happened to me. Most people that find out about my diagnosis think that I'm very high functioning or not autistic. Even people who work with autistic kids or have autistic family members.


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03 Mar 2014, 1:33 pm

Does it count if you've never been officially diagnosed? Because if so, then my younger sister has done this to me numerous times over the years - mainly in conversations with family members, but she once posted about it on Facebook, and made it sound like I'm more low-functioning than I actually am. (odd thing is, she gets upset when I've asked her NOT to talk to people about me and possible autism)



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05 Mar 2014, 3:11 pm

Thought provoking, thanks for posting this, DK.

Something to through onto the ponder pile when shoveling snow, driving home, etc.



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09 Mar 2014, 10:53 pm

My mom has told a large number of her friend's families, and while i don't like it, it hasnt ever had a negative impact.

But one of my girlfriends told her best friend that she lived with, and I was pretty upset by it. she said she "didn't think it mattered" until i explained it to her. I only tell people when they know and like every part of me, so that when i tell them it changes nothing. people have inaccurate assumptions about AS, and I know if they learn i have it before they know me, they will judge me or treat me differently.



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10 Mar 2014, 10:10 am

Ah, man, that happened to me a lot. Apparently they couldn't take so much awesomeness so they tried to make me feel bad the best way possible. By constantly standing against me and teasing me and pitying me and choking me with those horrifying words. But that didn't stop me. I'm still here. I survived and won. And they lost. It was that easy. But winning is nothing if you didn't get to see them go like this :cry: when they hear my story. And you know what, I got to see it.
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