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01 Apr 2014, 11:50 am

Verdandi wrote:

When people insist that it's necessary and possible to overcome disabilities with sheer force of will.

It is true you can overcome them in some cases. I used to have hearing loss and now I don;t anymore. I had sensory processing disorder and I grew out of that and dyspraxia too, I also grew out of my speech delay. Some people over come being in a wheelchair and learn to walk again. My sister in law was hit by a car and it took her a while to overcome her disabilities and she had to re learn to walk and potty train again and she has a different personality now and brain damage and I am not sure how it affects her.

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01 Apr 2014, 11:55 am

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Verdandi wrote:

When people insist that it's necessary and possible to overcome disabilities with sheer force of will.[/quote
While all aspects of ASD as a disability can't be overcome with effort, for many people on the spectrum things like obvious public stimming such as rocking and flapping hands can be. There is absolutely no reason why anyone who is high functing should get into the ground and start rocking back and forth in the middle of public. If you are high functioning you should be able to control yourself more and not do these things public.

Did you post this as an example of something ignorant that is said?

I can control my stimming and I have always been selective about what stim to do and when to do it. I have always been self conscious about myself so that also gave me control too. Must not be a real stim then nor an impairment if I can control them.

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01 Apr 2014, 8:33 pm

DVCal wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

When people insist that it's necessary and possible to overcome disabilities with sheer force of will.

While all aspects of ASD as a disability can't be overcome with effort, for many people on the spectrum things like obvious public stimming such as rocking and flapping hands can be. There is absolutely no reason why anyone who is high functing should get into the ground and start rocking back and forth in the middle of public. If you are high functioning you should be able to control yourself more and not do these things public.

While I don't stim in public I hope in the future sometime stimmimg in public will be as acceptable as kissing in public

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01 Apr 2014, 11:44 pm

ASPartOfMe wrote:

DVCal wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

When people insist that it's necessary and possible to overcome disabilities with sheer force of will.

While I don't stim in public I hope in the future sometime stimmimg in public will be as acceptable as kissing in public

Kissing in public is acceptable? That makes lot of people uncomfortable when they see it, including me. I wish they get a room, especially when they are making out. I am fine with kiss good byes and good bye hugs and greeting hugs.

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02 Apr 2014, 1:28 am

ASPartOfMe wrote:

DVCal wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

When people insist that it's necessary and possible to overcome disabilities with sheer force of will.

While I don't stim in public I hope in the future sometime stimmimg in public will be as acceptable as kissing in public

I probably do stim in public, but nothing all that disruptive...maybe seems unusual but I don't do anything that really interferes with anyone else. Maybe I have a piece of paper in one hand i am crinkling or I might play with my wallet chain, if I am at the store or something I think that helps keep me distracted from some of the more excessive sensory imput and stay present longer....if I didn't do that I'd probably be able to stand even less time in a large store. I have to say though I am not always consciously aware of my stimming it will happen and then I might realize it after a while....Not sure If I'd be high functioning though.

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02 Apr 2014, 3:11 am

League_Girl wrote:

ASPartOfMe wrote:

DVCal wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

When people insist that it's necessary and possible to overcome disabilities with sheer force of will.

While I don't stim in public I hope in the future sometime stimmimg in public will be as acceptable as kissing in public

I see a lot more then kissing in public all the time but since since is not the adult section I won't give details.

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02 Apr 2014, 11:33 am

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When I was at a restaurant, and very subtly flapped my fingers against my palm, and my mother looked at me (like she always does) and say at: "Cut that out! You look like a f*cking ret*d!"

Similar things have happened to me. Just not the language.

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02 Apr 2014, 11:55 am

That one can be too intelligent to be disabled.
That autism is psychological or behavioral and not neurological (meltdowns in particular).
That if someone has good self-esteem, their disability isn't that bad.

And most of all, THAT AUTISM IS ONLY A SOCIAL THING.
Or that someone who can read people well but finds socializing debilitatingly draining if not outright distressing is somehow less autistic than someone who can't read people as well but enjoys socializing.

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02 Apr 2014, 1:19 pm

einsteinmyhero wrote:

Asperger96 wrote:

When I was at a restaurant, and very subtly flapped my fingers against my palm, and my mother looked at me (like she always does) and say at: "Cut that out! You look like a f*cking ret*d!"

Similar things have happened to me. Just not the language.

My mom never used such language, she said things instead like "Don't play with your hair." "Don't play with your ear."

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