Anyone else bored around people?

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I think this is typical of most people but with me, I find I get bored interacting with all people because I'm fed up that it never goes beyond "superficial". I'm fed up trying to get to know people further than this because it never leads to anything more meaningful for me. If I have more than one conversation with someone related to any topic then I'm already bored.

Yes. What Orangez said:

People won't say anything interesting; I get bored, they notice my lack of reciprocation, and misinterpret it to mean that I'm not interested in them rather than disinterested in their inane chatter.

It paralyzes me socially; I can't figure out whether or not to try to move on with the relationship because people all start off saying the same boring crap, which obfuscates their personalities. I have to wait to get past their small talk to see if they are actually interesting, but I can't fake the "normal" talk, so that ends up not working even when I try.

Once at university, I was approached by a student who was boring me to death with "what's your major? my major is blah blah blah" small talk. I tried to deviate from the script and show a bit of my true self, and she looked at me like I was crazy. I couldn't hide my boredom, and I suspect that it drove her away.

If what Orangez says is true, it makes me wonder because I don't see how people can forge an emotional connection with these bland, refried scripts.

Agreed!

Yeah.. most of the time people bore me, but I don't mind to point it out and telling them to F off eventually. Clearly I'm not the best company.

There are few people whom I don't mind having around since they can provide me with some stimulus that doesn't bore me that easy. That's probably why they ended up being friends of mine.

I don't identify with the introvert by the book I guess; I'm not really shy either, yet what gets to me is that I just fail to connect to people. Though perhaps that by itself is that aspie thing where I just start rambling about my interests; and honestly... if you're not keeping up, GTFO! I have no interest to converse to people face to face about things I have no interest in.

I tend to get out to bars and clubs pretty regularly, but in total aspie fashion I don't interact with anyone except the bartender to order drinks. I'm there to enjoy myself, listen to music and pay over overpriced liquor and those all seem to be present for the time being.

I've managed to walk out at a therapist once and told her "next time make sure we have an interesting conversation, you're boring". No, the men in white coats did not pursue me.

But I sometimes have the most interesting monologues on my own and I'm totally fine with that. For some reason they're way more interesting than conversation with others.

Do you talk out loud?

That totally depends on where I am. At home I do... in a wide spectrum of languages, which would probably make it sound like I'm speaking in tongues, lol.

Yeah, sometimes I talk to myself on the street as well, mostly at night. I guess it falls a bit under "thinking loudly". If I have to think about stuff silently it often just goes lost somewhere, if I say it at least it sticks around for a bit.

I'm quite aware of my surroundings, so yeah... I don't come across as that unhinged I suppose.

Which also is worth mentioning, that chances are IF I'm laughing in public it's because of something weird going on in my head; I quite like language and wordjokes, so chances are it's something of that nature.

of course.. can't stand small talkers that sit around drinking their wine and talking about their cousins and jobs and dogs and insignificant and mundane lives.
the how are you thing is also usually very irritating.