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10 Feb 2015, 9:55 pm
DarkAscent wrote:
I think that what a lot of my deaf friends who are not autistic do would be considered to be very rude but is accepted and actually preferred to at my school, which is a school for deaf students.
What they usually do to get one another person's attention is wave their hand in front of the person's face or flash the lights in the room on and off briefly. This is very much preferred at my school because even with their hearing devices, the person might not hear their name being called. My family members (who aren't autistic) sometimes wave their hands in front of my face to get my attention. I don't mind this though. I'm used to it. I'd rather have someone wave their hands in front of my face than screaming my name (which I sometimes don't respond to either) to get my attention.
What they usually do to get one another person's attention is wave their hand in front of the person's face or flash the lights in the room on and off briefly. This is very much preferred at my school because even with their hearing devices, the person might not hear their name being called. My family members (who aren't autistic) sometimes wave their hands in front of my face to get my attention. I don't mind this though. I'm used to it. I'd rather have someone wave their hands in front of my face than screaming my name (which I sometimes don't respond to either) to get my attention.
If someone is hearing impaired, then no, that's not rude at all - it makes sense to do that.
10 Feb 2015, 10:23 pm
11 Feb 2015, 12:25 am
11 Feb 2015, 2:56 am
conundrum wrote:
DarkAscent wrote:
I think that what a lot of my deaf friends who are not autistic do would be considered to be very rude but is accepted and actually preferred to at my school, which is a school for deaf students.
What they usually do to get one another person's attention is wave their hand in front of the person's face or flash the lights in the room on and off briefly. This is very much preferred at my school because even with their hearing devices, the person might not hear their name being called. My family members (who aren't autistic) sometimes wave their hands in front of my face to get my attention. I don't mind this though. I'm used to it. I'd rather have someone wave their hands in front of my face than screaming my name (which I sometimes don't respond to either) to get my attention.
What they usually do to get one another person's attention is wave their hand in front of the person's face or flash the lights in the room on and off briefly. This is very much preferred at my school because even with their hearing devices, the person might not hear their name being called. My family members (who aren't autistic) sometimes wave their hands in front of my face to get my attention. I don't mind this though. I'm used to it. I'd rather have someone wave their hands in front of my face than screaming my name (which I sometimes don't respond to either) to get my attention.
If someone is hearing impaired, then no, that's not rude at all - it makes sense to do that.
Thanks.
But I guess that people who are less understanding or less experiences with disabilities would find it to be invasive of their personal space and so very rude.
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11 Feb 2015, 4:49 pm
Zajie wrote:
Sometimes some NTs and their behaviors make me convinced that I'm living in an enviroment where the stronger tears off the weaker for fun
Some of them do take great delight in capitalizing on the weak. My oldest sister was (and still is to a degree) like that. When I was growing up I could always count on her to beat the living daylights out of me when the adults weren't looking. She knew I was easy to catch and pound on because I always fell when I tried to run.
I have to wonder too about the lack of empathy I see in a good number of NTs- many of them show far less consideration for the rights of others than they could, or should. Then again, I'm beginning to believe a good portion of the population has been/ is being raised by wolves.
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11 Feb 2015, 5:17 pm
Greenhat wrote:
Not only do people talk to me when I'm reading, but they'll cover the page with their hands, scream in my ear, insult me, and then, if I still don't respond, tell me how rude I'm being. Reading is an activity that broadcasts that you are busy! Ignoring someone generally means that you don't want to talk! Why is this so hard to understand?
Sounds like these people never learned basic concepts of politeness when they were kids: "don't interrupt", "wait your turn", "keep your hands to yourself"....
Am I just getting old, or are such things no longer considered to be important?
11 Feb 2015, 5:39 pm
elysian1969 wrote:
Zajie wrote:
Sometimes some NTs and their behaviors make me convinced that I'm living in an enviroment where the stronger tears off the weaker for fun
Some of them do take great delight in capitalizing on the weak. My oldest sister was (and still is to a degree) like that. When I was growing up I could always count on her to beat the living daylights out of me when the adults weren't looking. She knew I was easy to catch and pound on because I always fell when I tried to run.
I have to wonder too about the lack of empathy I see in a good number of NTs- many of them show far less consideration for the rights of others than they could, or should. Then again, I'm beginning to believe a good portion of the population has been/ is being raised by wolves.
Some of them tear off the weaker by using them and making use of the 'weakness' of that person for inconvenient reasons, I think it's unfair, there's this girl in class who talks a lot and gets hated about it because she's fat and doesn't know how to dress- she gets bullied about it and not even teachers like her, there are people more talkative than her and more annoying but I guess no one hates on them for that because they have the qualifications of being 'stronger', I really hate when people do that to others
I agree with this and I think most people's behaviors is the product of whatever raised them
11 Feb 2015, 6:11 pm
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11 Feb 2015, 7:36 pm
conundrum wrote:
Greenhat wrote:
Not only do people talk to me when I'm reading, but they'll cover the page with their hands, scream in my ear, insult me, and then, if I still don't respond, tell me how rude I'm being. Reading is an activity that broadcasts that you are busy! Ignoring someone generally means that you don't want to talk! Why is this so hard to understand?
Sounds like these people never learned basic concepts of politeness when they were kids: "don't interrupt", "wait your turn", "keep your hands to yourself"....
Am I just getting old, or are such things no longer considered to be important?
I blame my school's apparent ignorance of basic civility and respect. The teachers seem to have given up on the finer points of politeness, as it's all they can do to keep the kids in their seats and the noise level below deafening.
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11 Feb 2015, 8:36 pm
11 Feb 2015, 8:58 pm
Zajie wrote:
elysian1969 wrote:
Zajie wrote:
Sometimes some NTs and their behaviors make me convinced that I'm living in an enviroment where the stronger tears off the weaker for fun
Some of them do take great delight in capitalizing on the weak. My oldest sister was (and still is to a degree) like that. When I was growing up I could always count on her to beat the living daylights out of me when the adults weren't looking. She knew I was easy to catch and pound on because I always fell when I tried to run.
I have to wonder too about the lack of empathy I see in a good number of NTs- many of them show far less consideration for the rights of others than they could, or should. Then again, I'm beginning to believe a good portion of the population has been/ is being raised by wolves.
Some of them tear off the weaker by using them and making use of the 'weakness' of that person for inconvenient reasons, I think it's unfair, there's this girl in class who talks a lot and gets hated about it because she's fat and doesn't know how to dress- she gets bullied about it and not even teachers like her, there are people more talkative than her and more annoying but I guess no one hates on them for that because they have the qualifications of being 'stronger', I really hate when people do that to others
I agree with this and I think most people's behaviors is the product of whatever raised them
I remember in middle school when kids would make fun of me for some of the dumb things I said out of social skills problems, but they weren't exactly mature or geniuses.
Another thing I think is rude is when people take things from you without asking. I remember getting mad at this one girl in my 8th grade science class for just randomly taking school supplies out of my pencil bag without asking for permission.
