starkid wrote:
ToughDiamond wrote:
starkid wrote:
ToughDiamond wrote:
it's emotionally immature to call somebody emotionally immature.
No. There are multiple possible reasons for telling someone that she is immature; emotional immaturity is only one of them. Do not mix up an act and it's possible motivation.
I wasn't trying to be all that precise, just using a play on words to make my point.
It's not a matter of precision; it's a matter of accuracy. You and I are saying two different things, not similar things which differ by degree of precision.
I've not mentioned motivation.
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Do you have any examples of calling somebody emotionally immature that seem like emotional maturity?
No, because calling someone emotionally immature has no necessary connection to one's emotional maturity, just like I said in my previous comment.
If emotional immaturity and calling somebody immature were independent, we would expect roughly half such accusations to appear emotionally mature. But every example I know looks emotionally immature.
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Enduring personality traits are not detectable in a single opinion. I have no reason to assume that "I'm ok, you're not ok," is being insinuated in general; I don't consider this "allegation" to be inherently offensive, etc., and even if I did assume those things, saying something objectionable on a single occasion is not enough evidence on which to judge the person saying them as emotionally immature.
I think emotional immaturity is a state rather than a personality trait. If it were a personality trait, I'd expect it to be fairly objectively defined, but all I've found on the Web about it is rather subjective, and Wikipedia has no page on it. As for enduring, maturity normally increases with time, and emotional maturity often seems to dip when people lose their tempers. It's not inherently offensive, in the sense that the one who receives the allegation / label has to play their part, and I expect there are a few people who wouldn't be offended, but that doesn't alter the usual situation.
18 Apr 2015, 4:47 pm
