echoemotica

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Thanks for this thread.And,yes,this sure does apply to me but I never knew it so well defined or articulated.

Thanks for the thread Serious Girl. This is the reason I avoid eye contact. I get sucked into peoples emotions just by entering their eyes. And why I have only one special need at work, to be in a non-hostile work environment free from gossip, back stabbing, and getting sucked into other peoples negative emotions. I become them and it destroys me. And when avoiding these pitfalls, people think of me as uncaring for not wanting to go with them into their world of emotional insanity. Whats an aspie to do.

So,Seriousgirl, why do you ask? Is this part of the research into your theory that there are "rational aspies" versus "emotional aspies"? And do you think one is preferable over the other?

Because I would say, if that is your theory, that we each have our place in the world. We "emotional aspies" are the ones who become therapists, nurses and helpers of the world's disenfranchised populations, including others on the spectrum. Whereas the "rational aspies" are the ones like Bill Gates who can make money but ignore the rest of us. Humph.

There definitely does seem to be a split along the lines somewhere. I have noted that some, like myself, tend to be more emotional or more of a mixed bag, and others seem to be entirely logical, with little emotion on the surface, though whether that runs deep too, who knows? Personally, I am stuck between intense logic and intense emotion, which can be a right pain in the backside.

No, it's NOT. Empathy is recognizing and understanding other's emotions... you can FEEL other's emotions without understanding it, and even without knowing WHOSE are they. And they're as real as yours not like in empathy where i think you just imagine how other person can feel and that even triggers diffrent emotions in you (saddness > pity, etc.) I think you can still be really bad at empathy, but experience echoemotica. (like i do)

That's exactly what I'm like - memories without emotions. I thought that was normal. So do most people, for example, feel sad when they think about a relative's death, even after they have finished grieving?

It's rather strange but my emotions of these events get coded in another part of the brain I think. If I hear music at the time of the event, hearing the music again may bring out some of the emotion. My grandmother wore a particular scent and when I smell it elsewhere, it brings out emotions of sadness.

I think my emotions are being recorded in parts of the brain that records sensory information? I don't know. I find it odd to say the least.

It's not my particular theory, but rather I borrowed from Temple Grandin's "techie" vs. "emotionally connected" types. No, I don't think one is perferrable over another, but I think it is important for parents to understand that each type will react differently. I have two children, one of each type, and must relate to them on the level where they feel comfortable. Each type has stregths and weaknesses just like anyone.

I sense that you feel insulted? because you perceive me to be judgmental? If that is the case, please be assured that I'm not judging, rather wandering around in my mind and testing what makes sense to me vs. reality.

I didn't know there was a name for this and that it was part of being an aspie. I thought I didn't have the lack of empathy but recognize everything you are saying in myself as far as the deep emotions I seem to "catch" from other people though without any understanding of what it all means or what is behind it and cannot seem to respond appropriately.

I get this so bad that I have to actively
block people's feelings out. Most of what
makes me a cold hearted bastard is my
need to avoid feeling other's pain. That
and getting a kick out of feeling their suffering.