On the spectrum and NOT been bullied?

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As I remember bullying was just part of the culture at my school. Everyone got bullied, some people more than others and I'm quite sure that not everyone has ASD.

So, I was bullied but not enough to make me resent the whole of human existence.

No, I know it was Japanese they called me, every time I passed them in the school corridors. They always said, "hi, Japanese." Nothing else.

And it was nothing to do with how I dressed because we wore school uniform, and the school was so strict on making sure everybody looked the same, so my dress style wasn't any different to anyone else's. So it was impossible to be picked on by how you're dressed.

I never really got bullied. In grade 2 I was teased for my lisp, but it was more playful and annoying than malicious. In grade 6 I faced some girl cattiness, and a couple times I received reports from my friends that people had said mean things about me. But for the most part kids just left me alone. I suppose I've been incredibly lucky.

I think most girls face cattiness, particularly at secondary school. I remember when my cousin was 13, and was always an outgoing NT and naturally found it easy to make friends, started a new school in a new town where she didn't know anybody. And she didn't fit in socially when she first started. For about 3 months she spent alone in her room, which I'd never thought would happen to someone like her. The girls were so cliquey and full of raging hormones, that they ganged up on my cousin and called her names and picked on anything they could about her.

But because of her outgoing personality, she soon fitted in, and ended up loving school because of the fun and laughs she had with the girls that once unwelcomed her. But that's teenage girls for you. Not all are like that, but most are. I prefer teenage boys to teenage girls. I feel bitchy teenage girl vibes and behaviour can be more daunting than teenage boys behaviour. When boys at school picked on me (even the ones that sexually harassed me) I still dealt with it much better than I did the catty behaviour from girls.

I feel this way too. With guys it's usually more direct because they might say hurtful/inappropriate things or invade my personal space, but they usually aren't as manipulative as girls. Girls are more likely to turn people against you and subtly put you down over a long period of time and that hurts much more IMO.