Before there was diagnosis.....

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Nobody specifically. I've just noticed a general idealised view keep coming up.

ABA is one thing I'm glad I missed out on.

I'm going to bring up a very difficult subject and i would like to ask for a little patience and maybe assistance to aid me get the discussion going in a manner where we can explore and maybe find some understanding.

As one of the people for whom diagnosis was not available as a child i can't help but observe a chasm between the realities of my cohort and the younger generations.

This isn't either of our fault but none the less it exists.

Most Aspies of my generation and older are likely to have experienced lives that are more akin to a horror movie, i am not going to sugar coat it. We were abused.

Whether physical abuse, mental abuse or sexual abuse, abuse has been part of our daily lives from the beginning and for many still occurring.

I personally feel that i cannot post on the threads related to life experience because the juxtaposition of realities is just too great, you cannot relate to my life nor i to yours, the scars we bear are thankfully ones you will not have had to experience, especially alone.

We are often accused of being 'angry' as a way to undermine our life experiences especially so on the IRC channel, let me make one thing perfectly clear. WE'RE ENTITLED TO BE f*****g ANGRY.

Any attempt to reframe our experiences or to nullify them or invalidate them or stifle the discussion around them because it makes you uncomfortable, or it takes the focus away from your clique is not acceptable, whilst many of you use IRC as your social outlet, for some it is a last chance lifeline.

We haven't had the luxury of early diagnoses or intervention programs or therapy. We were beaten, locked in cupboards, ostracised, derided, dehumanised and dumped. So please snowflake tell us why we should shut up and listen to how difficult your life has been living in the house mummy and daddy bought you or how your soo ugly, or how we should shut up whilst you ramble on about unicorns and your fantasy worlds.

Like i said our realities are very different and in the current political climate we should be seeking to help those who walked the path long before you did and not 'constructively' ban them by purposefully triggering.

I know i don't have any blood on my hands as i seek to help those in distress, can you say the same? I doubt it.