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19 Jun 2005, 10:03 pm

magic wrote:
I looked around and envied other people
that they were able to hold jobs and live
independently (I lived with my parents
until 25 1/2).


I was helping my grandmother and karl
fiscally between 2000-2002. Karl wanted
to retire as a baker and they needed to
payoff old debts. I was making $1200
per month washing dishes at "Villa Pizza"
and enjoyed the commute. The house was
sold and I was 36 at the time. This was
the stablist living I ever had. I helped
them and they helped me by being in
a secure envirement, and I was employed
at my best income for 2.10 years.

I can see the benefit and negative of living
at one's parents, or grandparent's house.
The benefit was they were less financially
strapped. The negative was real world
living was as foreign to me as fixing one's
car(I am not a car mechanic and never owned
one). It was the 2.5 years at the "Union
Square Backpackers Hostel", or "house of pain
and suffering" that prepared me to my best
of my ability to try to live in the real world
as we live in.

magic wrote:
Then a job found me - I was
recommened for it by the professor who
supervised my master's degree thesis
(without my knowledge). I stayed at that
job for 6 1/2 years, and quit because of
social issues. That job has left me with
substantial savings, and allowed me time to
think of what to do with the rest of my life
(I am still not quite decided, though...)


What type of job? - is it indoors in a office
building doing code? is it a home-type job
that is more? leisurely? How did you pass
the interviews(I ask this since most autisic
people like myself don't do good first impressions
in job interviews)?

Sincerely,
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19 Jun 2005, 10:16 pm

scoots wrote:
Sorry if I confused anyone here. I meant to
say jobless instead of homeless. I was tired
and thinking of Ghosthunter when I wrote my
previous post and somehow the wrong word
slipped out.


Thanks for thinking of me. I try to convey
thoughts and feelings, and when I get silence
I often wonder if I am being heard.

This voluntary response is most appreciated.
I hope I made a difference in you life, as you
do cross my mind on alot of things....and they
were addressed as well by you(these areas
of thought I have about you and your wellbeing)

scoots wrote:
The thought is nice, but unfortunately, as in the
case with work, as it has been with school, as it
has been with everywhere else, I need to have
the right environment or else I crash and burn.


This applies to housing and work for me. What
is considered a negative-"Crash & Burn" scenerio?

scoots wrote:
I've come to the reluctant conclsuion that I won't be
able to make it through college with out assistance
from others. During the upcoming fall semster, I've
agreed to work with the counseling center to set
up support services to help me with the more
troubling aspects of college.


My best thought about school is I am academically
ready for it.

My worst thought is asking for emotional help that
I try through self-reliance to overcome.

I can see your point about asking for help. Are there
such services in your school? You imply there is! but
reality isn't always a pamphlet in a college career board.

scoots wrote:
While all of you here might applaud my efforts to seek
out services, it ruins my self-asteem and it makes me
feel depressed becasue my dad use to chastize me as
a kid over my lack of independence and my vunerablities
to others due to a poorly developed theroy of mind.


The fact your in year 2 and got good grades is excellent.

The fact that you are willing to ask for help and thus
develop future independence upon graduation's end
is good.

Your father choose his life and doesn't seem happy, as you
have posted in the past. I am glad you didn't take up
work were he worked and decided to be your own
man! That is terrific. So if asking for help is what
makes this further successful(being your own man!)
then god- bless!



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19 Jun 2005, 10:20 pm

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Now that I am at Tri-C (community college) my
relatives treat me like that. I suspect they will be
much nicer when I transfer to Columbus College
of Art and Design, but it sucks in the meantime.


Are you living with your relatives?(aunt, uncle, cousin????)

What context of treating you like.....?

Good luck in school!

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19 Jun 2005, 10:26 pm

sean wrote:
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This is why I don't recommend pills to replace
one's own coping skills, unless there is a specific
reason. Why such special circumstances?????????
I was young and was not developing coping skills
the usual way. I took pills in addition to picking up
new skills, but too much has always been dependent
on the pills.


And thus, unless under specific reasoning, I DO
NOT RECOMMEND MEDS. I have always stated
one developed coping skills get hindered by
co-dependency issues that are prevailent for
those with ASD area's. In your case they may
have been good, but not 100% for everyone,
maybe 10% is reasonable!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter



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20 Jun 2005, 12:48 am

Synchro wrote:
I’m not in much danger of becoming homeless,
unless for some reason my mother disowns me
and that is unlikely. My backup plan I spoke of
before in an old thread somewhere. If I am
faced with homelessness I will try to gain
employment at the concession services in the
National Park system. Much of the work would
be customer service, but they provide living
quarters, prepared food, and medical benefits.


Ghosthunter wrote:
I heard about this! How does it work? and
how does one apply?

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Generally, applying for these types of jobs is done through the mail. From what I understand, from talking to people who worked in Yosemite National Park, it is supposedly quite easy to obtain this type of employment. While I was there visiting many years ago, I was told by a couple of people (who had been employed there for over a decade) that I could get hired on the spot if I wanted to work there. There are maintenance and groundskeeping jobs in addition to the plethora of customer service positions. Some parks hire for seasonal work, others are year round.

This site has links to National Park jobs: http://www.coolworks.com/national-park-jobs/