Requiring people to be blunt instead of implying things?

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^the same is true for me. If possible, I ask for detailed information/explanation/meaning, so I can connect all the dots, and avoid the possible ramifications that can result from having to guess, or making an incorrect assumption. I, often have to do this with people I work with, but, they are, generally, eager to elaborate, once I inquire further.

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^That is very true! I have had a few of those experiences, and did not realize what was occurring, until several months into the friendships (and an experience with a workplace predator that changed the course of my life as I knew it).

Ditto, though lately asking for clarity hasn't gone well.

It's ridiculous that people are so unable to do this. It's not hard. It's actually easier.

There have certainly been times where I've missed the more subtler implications in conversation.

I remember one time where my parents were arguing, and my sister said that we should go and "talk about that thing outside" (aka I think we should leave until tensions have lessened) but at the time I was oblivious and asked what it was she wanted to talk to me about, and why we couldn't talk about it there.

It was only when she pulled me aside, and had a go at me for not understanding subtlety, that I realised.

Yeah, I believe I was around 13/14 years old when that happened.

Another time I was on a Skype call with a friend, and out of frustration he eventually said "Look, I've been sarcastic to you for 2 hours now!" because I thought he was being serious and replied as such. My ability to pick up on sarcasm really varies, usually I'm better at being sarcastic than picking up on other's sarcasm.

If people say something that I know they wouldn't say otherwise (aka, if someone who I know hates maths said "Isn't maths great? I just love it!" then I can tell it's sarcastic. However, if I don't know their stance on a topic, then it increases the difficulty of picking up on sarcasm- it's still possible to pick up on sometimes, but there's a higher chance that I'll miss it than if I know what their stance is.

Sometimes I find that when I purposefully try to sound enthusiastic, I overdo it and apparently I come across as a tad sarcastic instead.

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I didn't catch on about sarcasm until after high school, but looking back I have to laugh. Girls would tell me that they just love my shirt, and I would reply, "Thank you!" I noticed that their faces would twitch and thought it was odd. Not until I got a little older and wiser did I realize that they were being passive aggressive. Oh well, I got the upper hand. Those jerks thought I was playing their game.