What advice would you give to other autistic people?

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Yes definitely. Another advice: do no harm but take no s**t!

Even the worst people have to pick and choose their targets. They can often be persuaded to show their best side morally, but expecting them to similarly rise to an intellectual challenge will fall flat.

take pride in yourself and take care of yourself like you would with a dog or an old friend

For those who are pet people, time spent with animals is never wasted. Pet your cat or dog when you're feeling stressed.

I don’t really post much here anymore but I have to say this is a great topic so I had to post.

1. Stand up for yourself.

This is the most important advice pretty much anyone can get who isn’t following it already. Don’t be meek. The most important reason for this is because even if you are like me and people bullying you never really affected you on a direct emotional level, if you don’t do anything back it will negatively affect your selfrespect just like it would for anyone else. Your selfrespect controls heavily how well you do at what you pursue in life aswell as future emotional states and is like a link between confidence and selfesteem and so it is very important unless you want to be miserable in your life because you had to be nice to some mean a**hole and throw yourself in front of the bus in favor of them. How people who mess with others work unless it’s jokingly and not what i’m talking about here is to push others down or take out their own pathetic sensitive feelings on others like they are their own punching bag. Therefore the only language these people understand is the language of pain, but i’m not calling for you to take illegal action. Be a worser person to these people then they are to you and they will probably leave you alone for easier prey and maybe even treat people better in the future. People have this idea that if you mess back with someone that they will up the antee but it’s rather the opposite. Most bullies are cowards which is why they pick people who they think won’t even defend themselves in the first place, why do you think you never hear about a jock getting bullied but it’s always some nerd or a insecure girl that gets it? However if you just ignore them many of them will up the antee on you cause it might get them excited (”Ooh this person is just letting me f**k on them they are submissive to me.”) or they want to see you suffer, they want to push you down remember. Build yourself up, don’t be a victim and carry yourself like no one is any better then you are. If you are like me in that your parents told you to ignore the bullies I can tell you from personal experience and studying the world, in particular human nature that your parents are dead wrong. And not only that but ever since I stopped not reacting to people messing with me it has made people pretty much stop messing with me and leave me alone. So please grow a spine and stop being so pathetic if you haven’t already. A bully who I was ignoring got so frustrated with me ignoring him he tried to kill me, never had that problem with any of the people I’ve stood up to. Something that you often hear against what i’m advocating for here is ”You are stooping to the bullies level when you bully them back.” But this is an emotional argument and very flawed, aswell as dumb. There is a big difference between walking up to someone who never did you anything and picking on them and picking on someone because they are picking on you. One is not treating someone fairly and the latter is treating someone fairly because you’d like to maintain or atleast build selfrespect, or be left alone, or both. Also you should just stand up for yourself in general aswell. Now this does not mean you should take the sjw route and play victim, quite the opposite. It means you should avoid victimhood and one of the methods for this is to appear strong to others. Being strong helps too.

2. Second most important.

Be more cynical and skeptical. Why? Because two symptoms of asperger’s is naivety and gullibility. Cynicism and skepticism are the opposites of these two respectively. I shouldn’t have to explain to you why being naive or gullible is a bad thing, and if you can’t find it out yourself I think there’s no point in me explaining anyways. Now if you’re like me and you know you are a pretty cynical and skeptical person for example there isn’t much to work on here.

3. Now this one is pretty directed to the men on the spectrum, in particular some people on this site I see and that is STOP OBSESSING OVER WOMEN.
Seriously there is no wonder you guys get so rejected when you’re not on your own journey doing your own thing but instead just obsessing over how girls hate you or whatever. I would say something about how women like men who don’t obsess about them but instead are secure in themselves but then of course you will try that now so the opposite sex loves you. I mean come on guys, get on with your lives go out on your journey and have fun and stop obsessing so much about getting girls to like you. I also have to say as a pretty misanthropic person that women aren’t that fun anyway; attention whores, immature (atleast here in feminazi Sweden...) nagging, whiny, constanly illogical, stuck up, really dumb... They all have their own set of BS traits almost. Plus they are humans and humans in general are really f*****g dull and boring to be honest. Even if hypothetically you guys weren’t just overly concerned with how others percieve you (which you are) and banging hoes were like your life passion, obsessing over women would not help that passion but rather harm it. Women are attracted to the ”not giving a f**k” attitude, I guess the kinda guys some people call ”a**holes” or ”douchebags”. So if you are a dude obsessing over women or getting them to like you, you should be able to see how you’re pretty much the antithesis of what they want. And who cares? It dosen’t matter. Get on with your lives, go out on your journey and have fun instead of obsessing about whether some cackling hens like you or not.

4. Don’t listen to people telling you that you are wrong because you did something special.

Don’t listen to the people telling you you are wrong because you triggered some snowflake or the people who have told you in the past that you are wrong because you triggered a snowflake. This can happen alot with autists because we don’t have the same BS adherence to all the other primates feelings like alot of neurotypicals do. And so sometimes one of us (or outlier neurotypicals in particular intj’s) create something or do something that is actually cool or original and of course, this has to trigger some little crybaby sometimes. Now I don’t really have a problem with sensitive people, what I do have a big problem with though are the cultural marxists that will punish you because you produced something that wasn’t the average garbage and even (to their disgust) unique. Growing up in superlefty Sweden as a creatively and intelligence wise gifted aspie (Not humblebragging.) I experienced this ridiculousness first hand in the swedish school system. On Basically for doing anything above average or unique you would get scolded and when you were having problems you would be rewarded. The dumber and more incompetent you were, the more valuable you would be treated by the female teachers. Absolutely disgusting. I made a edgy drawing first day in school when I was like 5 or 6, a girl came by my table and started to cry upon seeing my drawing and the marxist teacher yelled me out not because of the drawing but because it happened to make some snowflake cry, and then talked about how my drawing was wrong of course.

Because I disagree with this sites moderation I won’t be reading any of you guys replies, sorry.

Write short paragraphs, however brilliant they may be. Even if your thoughts are long, the reader needs some blank lines so that the eye can choose the correct next one from a short group.

Learn what you "overreact" to, such as justice issues, and try to moderate your reactions if they complicate your life too much.