0_equals_true wrote:
We are used to post like this. Some are objective, some are extremely bitter, some are in-between.
Some people just aren’t compatible. The worst type of relationship for me is a neurotic type that is controlling. I don't particularly associate this with ASD. The need to control other people lives doesn't come from not understanding social nuances but precisely the opposite. Having said that people might confuse inflexibility, with having a need to control people.
I don't understand the first paragraph of this post. What do you mean "we are used to post like this"? Are you saying that some people who post here are sometimes objective, extremely bitter or in-between, or are you saying that some people with aspergers are objective, bitter, or in-between?
The second paragraph really rings true for me. In general, I wouldn't characterize my boyfriend as someone who tries to control me at all. It really does seem like more of a need to control what's going on around him. It can be something as innocuous as someone asking him to switch seats with him. He gets so upset! I've learned not to throw those curveballs at him, but it can be so exhausting! I'm the sort of person that needs spontaineity in her life, and like you said, some people just aren't compatible.
0_equals_true is polite....
I am gonna say it in another way: we are fed up by such posts , by women who just 'discovered' that their misbehaving boyfriends might have an Asperger and after some long discussion with other members here they find out that they are "neurologically" "too different" than their boyfriends and so they find the good justification to break up without any feel of guilt.
Look gal , if he's a jerk then he's a jerk whether he's normal or aspie. If you can't handle his attitude then just break it up.
10 Oct 2008, 5:03 pm
