How do you cope in public?

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I don't care what others think of me and if someone says something or won't leave me alone I give them the finger. If that dosen't work I will kick them in the groin.

You know I absolutely hate itand have never, ever gotten used to being out in public. If I am going out on my own e.g to buy a videogame, I walk there incredibly fast and pretend that everyone else is a mindless robot and I am a ghost. I focus only on the one purpose of going to the shop, buy the game and immediatly walk home very fast

I cope in public by lying to people and making myself look bigger then what I am.

Lying has served me very well. My life is alomost one big lie.

But it's still good because men wouldn't smile nicely to someone who look weird or dork or stupid. They wouldn't even smile to someone who pull a grumpy face all the time, so I must go out looking rather descent.

I can cope in public quite easily unless something extreme happens to make me start covering my ears or stimming, like if there are pneumatic drills or huge crowds or something.
I prefer to stay indoors and have little contact with people, but unfortunately I go to quite a big secondary school (for the Isle of Wight, anyway :L) and it used to be middle school, so the building is all small and everyone is squashed up and noisy. In class I cover my ears and bow my head if it gets to loud, or if too much is going on, but it rarely happens as the classes are quite small. My friend said I hand-flap really obviously if something surprises me, and I didn't even know I did it!

I do well in public when I'm dressed in a way that makes me feel comfortable because it makes me more confident. If I've been rushed out the door or made to dress in a style I hate, I'll feel less confident. I won't necessarily feel "ugly", but out of place with myself. So, when I take care of my appearance and dress so that I feel completely ready to go I do much better in public. In a way, the way I dress is a "costume", and when I'm wearing an actual costume I know that I feel ever BETTER than normal. I've always been that way, it's not something that developed at a certain age. I've been "dressing up" since I could barely walk.

This probably applies to anyone anywhere, but I'm also way more comfortable in situations where I know what kind of socialization is expected of me. Like if there's a set topic or interest you know everyone is going to talk about or already relate to. I can't fumble around for something in common, and I get afraid to talk about my interests if I don't know that someone is already interested. I'm really afraid to bore people by talking forever about it.

I don't deal with being in public around lots of people so I get away as soon as possible.

I can cope. One of my good friends has helped me learn to cope for the last few years and I will forever be grateful to him.