FunnyFairytale wrote:
My ex is a person who is hard to label but who may come across as a bit aspie at times.What makes him stand out and not have anything in common with me or my aspie friends is that there is something else that that we dont relate to, like the manipulation, the strange intentions, the very calculated moves.I wouldnt be able to outsmart him ( so to speak) on any of those things because I wouldnt know how to construct it in my mind, neither would I have any desire to do so.
There is this strange difference there that is hard to pinpoint and makes him come across more like a psychopath somehow.
It's the long term planning and the long term view, like they can predict the future or something, and your long term reactions....
I understand how you would think you "can't outsmart him", but think of it as their special interest: manipulation. They're very focused on that. They're not burdened with any other idea or desire.
The thing that could stall an autistic person would be wondering whether they will be successful, lacking self confidence, and even caring when they fail. The sociopath does not linger on failure: he goes again. He does fail half the time, and that goes unnoticed anyway. Noone know of his plans but himself.