Why are NT women so obsessed over shopping?

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That's awesome; and I tell all my friends that I'm asexual as soon as it seems relevant so that no one hits on me .

I enjoy clothes shopping, but I'll be damned if I can spend more than $200 in a day's worth. I love going shopping when I'm in one of the capital cities, and usually take at least 2 hours to do a shopping centre circuit. The downer is that I don't actually look good in most clothes, but if I find a certain type of clothing I like I will obsess over that and buy lots of them. During summertime it was maxi-dresses.

Bingo. That's why I shop and I'm pretty sure that's the appeal for most people. When I'm depressed I shop. When I'm too depressed to shop, I'm in trouble.

There's that 15 minutes of happiness between having the cashier ring me up to the time I get home and realize what I bought wasn't the miracle cure-all I thought it would be. My sister sees little to no difference between shopping for clothes or CDs and DVDs, they all take up space, and you should be able to figure out what you want within 15 minutes of arriving. While she's probably correct, she's a real buzzkill to go shopping with, regardless of what it is I'm shopping for.



I like getting out of the house and I love the feeling of immediately having what I bought in my hands. I spend a lot of time familiarizing myself with a store, and I have a pretty decent recall for what I see: clothes, CDs, shoes, books, DVDs, etc. If someone's looking for gifts or a particular item, I can usually rattle off a few stores that carry that specific item or something similar. The tradeoff for the chaos of sorting through things at the mall is the energy. I prefer to shop by myself, but I like shopping in crowded areas for two reasons: the salespeople are usually way too occupied to bother me until I actually ask; and even if crowds contribute to a confusing and overwhelming atmosphere the positive energy just boosts my overall mood.

I could spend all day in Border's flicking through the books. They even have a little cafe in there!

Honestly? It's an anxiety thing. You feel some unease and then you reach for something to cover it up. It could be tea or coffee, tv, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, food, you name it. The anxiety helps to cover over the feelings of unease which people feel all the time. You can overcome the feelings with a thing called EFT, which helps to take away anxieties rather than tranquilizing them with things you don't need. I'd say in the case of clothes shopping it's anxiety about body image and attractiveness. Women feel unattractive and so they shop to have something nice to wear which covers up the fear. I suppose physical attractiveness is a woman's ticket to a relationship, without it she might feel like she has little access to security a man can provide. Society would help women to overcome these fears but without the insecure ego shopping the economy would collapse again and we can't afford that. So as long as people don't take responsibility for their anxieties it'll go on, because it's only when you seek out the answers to these problems that you become free. Waiting for society to tell you is a waste of time.