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17 Jul 2011, 4:17 pm

Yes many times, though that was more for elementary school...in middle and highschool peoples favorite things where freak, psychopath, 'are you a boy or girl?' and stuff like that. If someone was to call me ret*d again I think I would come up with a smart ass remark in retaliation and would definitely be convinced they are an idiot.

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17 Jul 2011, 4:22 pm

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People have called me ret*d or stupid before. Even the teachers and not just the students. The thing is though they are close to being right! I have an IQ of just 82. 70 and below is considered mental retardation.

I thought it had to below 80...but either way I would think they have to use more then IQ to determine that, as the IQ tests are never 100% accurate.

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17 Jul 2011, 4:24 pm

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Ha! This girl I was trying to get with months ago asked me "Are you ret*d?" ouch what a blow, she genuinely seemed like she was asking.

Not surprisingly she is quite a dim-bulb herself. Can't figure out what the heck she is about or what she wants or why she couldn't come to the realization that hanging out with a guy alone late at nighttime is leading him on in that way.

I am a bit of a pessimist, but some girls will act legit about asking things like that but they are being sarcastic....but maybe she was being legit.

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17 Jul 2011, 4:54 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

lightening020 wrote:

I am a bit of a pessimist, but some girls will act legit about asking things like that but they are being sarcastic....but maybe she was being legit.

She didn't really seem like she was doing it in a joking way, but it wasn't a straight up insult way either. I didn't take it so well, and she didn't do a convincing job of apologizing, if she even did which I don't remember now.

Maybe she just made a dumb joke, and then things got kinda awkward I could have handled it better and jokingly replied "Yes, are your not?" or something like that

I think If I have a really good connection with someone and we can joke about each other, then I would be fine. But in that situation she was kinda asking what is wrong with you?

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17 Jul 2011, 5:02 pm

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I'm sure you all know what the word is, ret*d! have any of you been called that? I was called that a few times. The first time I was in 4th grade and a student in my art class asked me,"Are you ret*d?" and I was like,"I don't know what that means." So then of course she said,"Then you are." OK so I was in 7th grade and had never heard the word before in my life. So when I found out what it mean I was very angry that someone would call me that.

OK so the last time someone called me that was about 2 or 3 years ago, and this really makes me mad because the person never said it to my face, not only that, it was a grown adult that called me that, a GROWN ADULT! I mean really! The witch had the freaking nerve to talk a bunch of crap to my cousins(her grandsons) talking sh** about me and my grandma. She told them that my grandma is a slob and that I am nothing but a ret*d. My cousins told my aunt about this a they were so unset that they were crying! When my dad found out what she said he got very angry ans started shouting that she is the one that is a ret*d. What to know the worst thing about the women that said that stuff? She is a social worker! That right's, A SOCIAL WORKER! She freaking works with autistic people and she has the nerve to call me a ret*d!

Has anything like this happened to everyone here?

you need to report this woman. she needs to be fired.

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17 Jul 2011, 5:45 pm

Oh yes, I was called ret*d many times throughout my school years, especially in middle school. One time in PE I was called ret*d when I accidentally passed the ball to a opposing team mate in a game of 21. Even some teachers thought I was ret*d, and my 7th grade Spanish teacher one time insulted me while I was taking a test after school, by making fun of my voice(talking really slowly in a stereotypically ret*d voice).

Although it stopped after middle school, once in a while someone called me ret*d in high school, and now, people just imply that I'm ret*d behind my back. My tics/stims, weak social skills, inability to understand social rules and etiquette,and the fact I started school a year late and learned to read and write later than other kids is probably what caused it.

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17 Jul 2011, 6:00 pm

I was called retorted buy a lot of my classmates & I think a lot of em actually believed I was. My mom sometimes ask me if I'm retorted when she gets frustrated with me. I sometimes feel like I am retorted but most all the psych, & experts I saw said I'm too intelligent to have anything on the autism spectrum. I find it odd & very frustrating that professionals think I'm smarter than an autistic when lots of other people think I'm stupider than one

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17 Jul 2011, 6:17 pm

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That's just stupid becuase some of the smartest people ever have or have thought to have autism.

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17 Jul 2011, 6:21 pm

Reading the replies since i posted made me realise that i've had far more of this kind of incident than i thought.

I'd always been good at subjects at school(the ones i liked, i couldn't care less about the rest of them) and anybody that knew me knew i was intelligent. Then i left school and the overwhelming verdict since then has been that i'm slow in some way.

A few weeks into basic training in the navy we took a test for english and maths and i scored top marks. I remember exactly what the officer reading out the results said, he read out my surname, said "not as stupid as he looks", then read out my results and all you could hear were gasps all around. And that's from people i'd been living with in extremely stressful conditions for a month or more at the time. It's happened so many times now that i can only conclude that people genuinely do think I'm slow in some way. I wish i knew an aspie irl, i'm useless at seeing things in myself but i think i'd spot it if it was someone else.

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17 Jul 2011, 6:37 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

One person did. I punched him to the floor.

My best friend says it jokingly and she has Asperger's and I say it to her too so that's fine.

Damn you are awesome, I wished I had did that to some of my tormentors

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17 Jul 2011, 6:48 pm

MakaylaTheAspie wrote:

Unfortunately... I am Italian. I also have a complicated last name. Some people would just make a parody of my last name when "ret*d" didn't work.

Insultee: Hey, Sernipotty!

Me: It's Serniotti, dimwit.

Insultee: So

Me: *punches in the face*

Oh great now we all know your first and last name. :roll:

Unless Makayla is part of your alias name and it's not your actual name.

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17 Jul 2011, 8:10 pm

I've been called a:

ret*d
Hippie
Democrat
Republican
Idiot
Fool
Creationist
Stupid
Dumb-ass
Communist
Marxist
Conservative
and on and on....

None of them are correct.

So what? Only idiots make assumptions about others. Why waste time and emotional effort paying any attention to them?

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17 Jul 2011, 8:36 pm

I call myself ret*d all the time with my best friend but she dosen't buy it. If someone calls me ret*d to my face in a condensending way they're probably going to get a knuckle sandwich.

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18 Jul 2011, 1:36 am

League_Girl wrote:

Callista wrote:

Sometimes all of this IQ talk makes me wonder... Think about how you'd feel if you were ret*d and your diagnosis constantly got used as an insult, and people's response wasn't to say, "How is that supposed to be an insult?" but instead to say, "No, I'm not ret*d! My IQ is 120!" or whatever their IQ happens to be.

When you try to remove yourself from the "ret*d" category in response to having that used as an accusation or insult, you leave unaddressed the implication that "ret*d" is a bad thing to be. It's like responding to prejudice against black people by reminding others that you're not black. Even if it's true and you're as white as they come, it's still missing the point. While you as a white person wouldn't deserve that prejudice, neither does the black person who's getting targeted too. Much better to team up and work together rather than push away the categories more stigmatized than your own.

But we're not ret*d. Would a white person like being called black?

I once offended someone online when I said he looked Italian and I still don't understand why it was so offensive. Is being Italian a bad thing? Well he was an American and he looked Italian in the picture. I guess he didn't like looking like another nationality just like no one likes being mistaken for having another disability and mental retardation is one of them. Lot of us don't like to be mistaken as having that. I am sure people would get offended too if I asked them if they are autistic and they weren't.

Well, a white person being called black, assuming they did not have any prejudice against blacks, would probably react with confusion rather than outrage. It would be more like, "Oh, sorry, I'm actually white; maybe the tan threw you off," than "How dare you! I'm white, not black!"

It's normal for someone to correct someone else when a mistake is made. Taking offense, though, says that either you have a very strong identity that the other person is denying by making that mistake (such as when a strongly-identified-female is called "sir"), or else that you have an aversion for the category you have been accidentally put into.

I know I can be unclear sometimes. Does that help explain what I'm trying to say?

Re. "Spaz": Short for "spastic", which is a description of the muscle tone of many people with cerebral palsy. How it got mixed up with mental retardation, I have no idea; it's no more related to mental retardation than autism is (that is, a higher rate, but generally not present). Maybe just that people assume that all odd-brain people are the same; therefore CP must equal MR must equal autism.

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18 Jul 2011, 3:35 am

I'm had it in school, though most of it I probably didn't hear/notice.
I got called it a months ago by some guy in the street, who I guess knows of me. I was just that week reading about AS and everything.. I couldn't help but laugh a little. Still, I was a upset about it because it just made me want to go outside even less.

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18 Jul 2011, 10:54 am

I was called that many times as a kid, but not as an adult. But honestly, I don't think I was called that any more so than NT kids. It was just a popular stab word. So was another word that refers disparagingly to homosexuality, but it was used constantly as a stab word against boys; regardless of orientation, even the most tough masculine boys.

Sticks & stones.............................. I wasn't ever bothered by it beyond the feeling of disapproval in general.

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