Forcing socialization on young adults with Asperger's?

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Yeah, that's usually how I end up, too.

Same here, and that makes me much more depressed than just sitting at home not worrying how I fit in.

This is an individual thing, certainly.

If he doesn't want to socialize, you shouldn't force him.

Yeah, sure, sitting in my room all the time, I do get depressed. Maybe once every two weeks, but it is a brief depression.
When I used to go out and socialize, I would get depressed far more often, even when I managed to have what I believed was a successful encounter with other people. (often I would find out I wasn't as successful as I thought, and that would lead to even more depression.)
Socialization isn't always bad...
but forced socializing is the worst hell imaginable.
"Hell is other people."

Physical limitations are the only thing that can prevent one from learning to cope with society? and physical limitations always prevent people from this? There are mental limitations, also I am more aware of some social cues, but yeah don't think the not being awkward thing is going to happen I cannot process enough information at once to pick up and read social cues, make proper eye contact/body language and pay attention to them as well all at the same time, I do not think it is something that can be learned in my case...because even when I do learn things about socializing them applying it to real life is still problematic. Not to mention aspergers syndrome/autism effects more than social interaction...you have heard of sensory issues correct? even if the social issues aren't necessarily debilitating those certainly can be but the social issues are rather debilitating to.

Also though what is there exactly to enjoy about this current society?

Is there a reason you cannot now be a part of the world as you put it? 23 isn't too old to start having a life so to speak, though actually going out can be anxiety provoking, much of the time I plan to go out places I could potentially meet people and decide against it because I feel in too bad of a mood, or like I'd get overwhelmed or worried I'll embarrass myself or something or be mocked....nonetheless I still push myself to get out there sometimes, and also spend time with the few people I am rather close to.

On the downside though simply being more social does not necessarily solve problems, there are also jerks and people who will try to take advantage and what not, so not all social interaction is pleasant...then again its largely unpleasant interactions from childhood that probably make me so anxious/nervous about social interaction.

Hi, Guys!! I just wanted to let you know that this thread was started almost 2 years, ago----so, the people you're quoting may not be here, anymore. I think Dillogic's still here, but.....