Ask youself why you really want a CURE?

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Improve sensory issues in which way?

I mean, can tolerate, for example, bright lights and louds sounds and not become "overstimulated" (ergo, no meltdown or shutdown).

I don't think I want to be "cured." This is who I am. There are definitely challenges but everyone has challenges. NT's have challenges.

It would be nice to see the world from the perspective of the NT.

I really can't imagine what it would be like, I'm fascinated when I watch them because of the way they interact and relate to each other.

Do they feel real emotion when they communicate? because when I watch the NT's interact it feels like I'm in a soap opera and I just sit there laughing.

It just seems so exaggerated and dramatic.

I'd really like to play a part in this perpetual drama.

A cure is going to be different for everyone.. But just be normal person.

Not have all the sensory issues, sleep problems, anxiety, executive functioning, not be sensitive to lights, sounds. Be able to be in relationships (for ALOT here), be able to have a normal and bigger social circle. Be able to live independently, not have to be on disability like many here are why would you want that?. Not have to take medication for various reasons.. Not have to fake your personality around other people to get them to like you.. Not live a cold lonely life...

These are the issues that I see commonly reported/ some of what I go through sometimes. Why the hell would I sign up for more of that? I can't think of any positives that my aspergers has brought into my life.. I guess some people enjoy this type of life.

If you guys aren't just trolling and really don't want to be cured tell me the positives that aspergers has brought into your life. Please enlighten me.

Probably because you have not spent much time reading this forum! the people here are split possibly 50:50 on the cure issue. There are quite a lot of us on here who don't care for a cure.

When I was in my late teens, I would have killed for a pill that would give me the ability to get girlfriends as easily as most of my friends seemed to. I didn't know about autism back then as it was basically unheard of, I just thought I was shy and a bit awkward. Now in my 50's I've just learned about my ASD, and quite frankly I really don't care for a cure for it - I kinda like who I am, as I am.

I've lived all my life with ASD without even knowing it - and guess what? I actually got by fairly well by simply not giving in and feeling sorry for myself.

Despite my social phobia, I still managed to get married and have beautiful kids. I might not be able to handle a full time job but so what? I simply went self employed so that I could manage my time better, and in a more stress friendly way. And if things still get too much I always have the option of going to the countryside for a rest for a few days.

I don't like bright lights, but that's what my hat and dark glasses are for, I don't like lots of sound, so I wear noise cancelling earphones. Everything else is simply a matter of managing my condition so that I can have a good quality of life.

Before clamouring after a cure consider this - do you really want all the emotional turmoil that comes with Being NT?

I look at the mood swings my wife goes through and think 'nah you can keep that!'. When someone dies I tend to get over it fairly quickly and with minimal emotional stress. For an NT it is a devastating experience, my wife still breaks down in tears thinking about her mum who died last year. I miss her mum, but don't get emotionally stressed about it. Even when my mother tried to commit suicide last year, I never really got too emotional about it, and I really love my mum.

I'm just guessing here, but I suspect alcoholism and drug addiction is more prevalent in NT's, because they have so much difficulty in dealing with their emotions. My wife has a cousin who is a terribly destructive alcoholic who ruins the lives of anyone who gets near to him. Why? because his wife left him 15 years ago and moved to america with his daughter - 15 years! and he still cannot get over it

So I fail to see what is so good about the emotional rollercoaster of being NT, or why it would make me want to be one of them.

Asperger's has made me become socially tolerant of non-NT people, and more understanding than the average person and be able to put myself into the shoes of a person with any disorder, even Alzheimer's. I have even taught my family how to imagine how it really feels for our dear grandmother who has Alzheimer's. Now I've noticed they have more patience with her than they used to, and know how to get down on to her level. That is ONE good thing.

Another good thing about my Asperger's is, although I hate being unable to filter out background sounds, it at least gives me an ability to be able to hear everybody's voice in a group conversation and not just the popular people. So if there's a shy introvert or person with some other social limits that often gets ignored because of blending into the background too much, I can hear when they speak.

Those are the ONLY two things good about my Asperger's. But there are, like, 20 things about it that I really HATE and outweigh these 2 things. Anyway, I can be so nice but I don't get as appreciated for it as I should, but if I make one mistake, oh dear that does not get forgotten.

Aspergers is what makes me such a good artist, it is what enables me to process and assimilate huge amounts of information, it is what enables me to see the world for what it is, unclouded by emotional attachment. There are plenty of good aspects of Aspergers for many of us, you just need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and make the most of what you have got. This will get you further in life than looking for a magic pill that will supposedly make your life better.

I thought this thread was call why would you want a cure, not why wouldn't you want a cure.

It's both would and wouldn't. I am just trying to arouse some deep thought into the topic of a cure. It's like this. If a cure was in the form of a drug? What would it's side effects be? It's like the old saying goes "Be careful what you wish for!".

I think it would be nice to understand emotions and put them into practice a bit better.

I would not take cure, because I'm not as severe as other aspies/auties. I think I'm very mild. Though I'd like to give more affection to loved ones and understand the way other people interact.
I want a "cure" for the other ones who want or need it.

Also, I've never said neurotypicals do not need some kind of "cure".

That's the thought everybody need! And NTs should try to see the world as neurodivergents.
A virtual reality system would be useful but not enough...

I feel like I'm in some kind of weird dream when I'm with the NT's, I don't find it awkward but I feel like I'm hallucinating. It is quite funny though especially when I tell them what I see, it does make them laugh.

I'm also on the mild side.. Still want a cure.

I wouldn't want a cure, because I'm not damaged goods. I also like the wonderful and unusual person that I am. I've also learned to adapt to the world around me. If I woke up with an NT brain, I'd have to learn everything all over again and I wouldn't feel like the same person. I don't feel any need to be exactly like every NT that I meet. My biggest fear is if a cure is created, that it would be pushed on everybody on the spectrum. There should be one for the people who want it, but I wouldn't take it.

^^Yes but I'd rise to the challenge of all that learning and discovery again. Maybe I'm just bored of being like this.