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06 Nov 2013, 10:10 pm

calling some one sweet heart is ok now is it ?


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06 Nov 2013, 10:13 pm

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clearly foreign language does not = intelligence.


I'd say it's more a case of ability in one things does not necessarily = ability in other things.


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06 Nov 2013, 10:20 pm

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calling some one sweet heart is ok now is it ?


If they've really annoyed you, sure. Darling.


( :P )


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06 Nov 2013, 10:36 pm

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calling some one sweet heart is ok now is it ?


Bless your heart. :P



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06 Nov 2013, 10:52 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
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calling some one sweet heart is ok now is it ?


If they've really annoyed you, sure. Darling.


( :P )


I prefer daaarling :wink:


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06 Nov 2013, 10:55 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
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clearly foreign language does not = intelligence.


I'd say it's more a case of ability in one things does not necessarily = ability in other things.


I agree it's just an ability I was :o I did way better at HS in foreign languages than those with a much higher IQ.

PS 2 x as Indonesian is the easiest language in the world to learn , though to be fair perhaps they where just bored as you are forced to learn a foreign language back in the day I wonder if they still do this ?


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06 Nov 2013, 10:56 pm

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calling some one sweet heart is ok now is it ?


Bless your heart. :P


nothing wrong with that .


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07 Nov 2013, 5:01 am

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And yes, I believe anyone with AS should just be themselves and not try too hard to fit in with what others want or expect of you. It is a lousy existence.


I agree.

The hard part about being oneself is that the majority of people are neurotypic, so in the job market you often have to accept the bullying attached to the pack mentality to some degree. We often face the choice of getting bullied thereby losing integrity/pride vs. not having company.


That's the biggest problem I have with the working world, especially lower wage work environments, is the pack mentality.
You are part of a "team", and there is a rigid social order, with serious consequences if you step out of line and act independently.


It's because NT's don't have the confidence to go it alone, so when they see someone who does it makes them jealous and afraid of their own insecurities.


I'm so much in doubt about that. I mean, whether it's true or not. It's seems true, but on the other hand I think it's just got a lot to do with that person breaking the social hierarchy, thereby the pack, which (often) means everything to an NT.


Yeah because they need the social hierarchy to feel secure. When they see someone break it, it tells them the social hierarchy is not everything, and so they feel insecure.



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07 Nov 2013, 10:35 am

And that's why I just ADORE cats and find dogs, especially their social nature bothersome and annoying. LOL :P



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07 Nov 2013, 11:54 am

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Don't tell me what matters to me.


You feel that way, because of your integrity/pride - neurotypicals on the other hand (often) love to be told what should matter to them through their social surroundings!


Telling other people what they feel is the height of arrogance. You don't get to determine my thoughts or feelings, sweetheart.


Sorry, I did not mean to offend you at all. Please talk politely.



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07 Nov 2013, 12:42 pm

aussiebloke wrote:
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calling some one sweet heart is ok now is it ?


Bless your heart. :P


nothing wrong with that .


It was a bit of a joke. The phrase is used in the Southern US for various reasons. One of the connotations is "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." So you say something nice as a contrast to what you are actually thinking. Although in this case I was mostly thinking "it would be funny to use this phrase in this specific circumstance." :) Urban Dictionary says

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This is a term used by the people of the southern United States particularly near the Gulf of Mexico to express to someone that they are an idiot without saying such harsh words.


But I do not think you are an idiot nor was I trying to express that you were.



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07 Nov 2013, 5:13 pm

oh dear I thought it was a compliment used by Southern usa religious types :oops:


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07 Nov 2013, 5:14 pm

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And that's why I just ADORE cats and find dogs, especially their social nature bothersome and annoying. LOL :P


I respect cats to for that reason their only sociable when they feel like it bit like us :wink:


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07 Nov 2013, 7:23 pm

qawer wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
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Don't tell me what matters to me.


You feel that way, because of your integrity/pride - neurotypicals on the other hand (often) love to be told what should matter to them through their social surroundings!


Telling other people what they feel is the height of arrogance. You don't get to determine my thoughts or feelings, sweetheart.


Sorry, I did not mean to offend you at all. Please talk politely.


I do apologise. If it pleases you and if it isn't too much trouble, would you please do me the courtesy of allowing me to determine my own thoughts and feelings? I would be frightfully grateful if you could. Thank you kindly. :)


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07 Nov 2013, 7:29 pm

Actually, Qawer, I wasn't all that offended at first; it was the subsequent discussion (most of which admittedly wasn't from you) that pissed me off.
But seriously, don't correct people when they tell you that you're wrong about their inner states.


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11 Nov 2013, 4:06 am

When you have the social attitude of a cat instead of a dog, how can you functionally engage in relationships? For instance at the job?

The problem is, they want to include me in their pack, but I don't want to, because that means I am to be bossed around through bullying. I won't put up with it!

Is there a solution to this problem?