I find this whole topic troubling because of lack of context.
In the world of theory and "games" (which, for purposes of this discussion, I define as consensual social activities governed by written rules, like math, science, law, tennis, Monopoly, football), I am extremely able. However, in the worlds where either consent, written rules, or both are absent, I suck because I often proceed from different assumptions than "neurotypicals."
My recent diagnosis has illuminated the fact of these different assumptions, and so permits me more successfully to pursue life activities where consent and written rules are absent.
But I still don't understand why the literal, rule-and-consent-respecting mindset is considered the disability, as opposed to the mindset that views rules and consent as mere suggestions.