27 Jul 2008, 8:43 pm
I've only told her a few things because she talks so much about herself, she hardly lets me talk. Every time I say something like 'I have trouble recognizing people I should know' she says 'Oh I have that problem too!' and then talks about herself. I said 'In a group, I just stand there feeling awkward, not knowing who to talk to or what to say.' and then she says, 'I am the same way! blah, blah, blah....'
OK lady! Do you have AS and are in total and complete denial or what? Does she think that I am some idiot that just wants someone to 'understand' and be reassured that I am normal? Because I sure as hell do not feel understood by her. And she is only a LCSW, I'm not sure she is even qualified to make a diagnosis, but this is who my insurance sent me to. I would appreciate it if you would check my thread 'list of my Aspie traits' and let me know what you think.
Complain to your insurance company and demand a change, she isn't even barely competant, and, as an LCSW, DEFINATELY is not qualified to diagnose.
Incidentally, (except for the long hairpiece at back) my avatar is really me, a month before my 50th birthday this spring...and I was diagnosed by Micheal Fitzgerald...feel free to print and show it to her.
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Dr. Fitzgerald diagnosed me too. He's a bit shy but very sharp.
Expensive too?
27 Jul 2008, 9:06 pm
27 Jul 2008, 10:27 pm
28 Jul 2008, 12:56 am
If ugliness is a factor in determining AS then I have it much worse than I thought. 
28 Jul 2008, 11:41 am
A "Miss Aspie" contest might be appropriate so the NTs can see how pretty we really are? 
28 Jul 2008, 11:55 am
That's actually a fun idea. But we'd need to change some of the events. The part where they have contestants interviewed by journalists to see how good they are at juggling such things would have to go.
28 Jul 2008, 12:21 pm
Never had a therapist suggest Autism Spectrum Orders, even when talking about how in "Rain Man" thoughts were more with Hoffman's character than Cruise's. Therapists probably worry that a DX on the Spectrum would have personal and social ramifications. Therapists also tend to assume that everyone wants to be normal. Hate therapists. 
28 Jul 2008, 12:28 pm
28 Jul 2008, 1:57 pm
That's awful! Especially if you're pretty. I'm quite attractive, myself (or so people keep telling me), and it's bad enough having all sorts of expectations about being socially capable, just because people tend to stop thinking -- the blood has gone to different parts of their bodies -- when they interact with you.
I've had a therapist tell me "You're not autistic!" as though that's supposed to make me feel better. I kept trying to tell her that I was trying to find areas where I had difficulties, so I could address them, and she seemed a lot more interested in convicing me that I'm "perfectly normal" (as though there is such a thing).
That is no consolation. Self-delusion -- or just plain lack of correct and accurate information -- is a whole lot more damaging for me, than the "negativity" of facing up to my drawbacks.
I have them -- we all do! I don't see anything wrong with trying to confront them.
I think with women, therapists tend to go overboard, trying to convince us that we're not nearly as bad as we think we are. I guess 'cause of all the anorexia and bulimia that they tend to deal with. I think a lot of therapists "get into the business" on the coattails of food-related psych issues. And they just transfer the whole body image self-image thing all across the board.
At least, that's been my experience and observation.
In your case(s) it could be different, but still -- the whole "pretty" thing is a double-whammy. Not that it's any easier for folks who are otherwise gifted. It's not just easy all-round, sometimes.
<sigh>
28 Jul 2008, 3:11 pm
28 Jul 2008, 4:50 pm
tell him that this must be most 
i have seen
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28 Jul 2008, 5:09 pm
28 Jul 2008, 7:37 pm
-- when they interact with you.I've had a therapist tell me "You're not autistic!" as though that's supposed to make me feel better. I kept trying to tell her that I was trying to find areas where I had difficulties, so I could address them, and she seemed a lot more interested in convicing me that I'm "perfectly normal" (as though there is such a thing).
That is no consolation. Self-delusion -- or just plain lack of correct and accurate information -- is a whole lot more damaging for me, than the "negativity" of facing up to my drawbacks.
I have them -- we all do! I don't see anything wrong with trying to confront them.
I think with women, therapists tend to go overboard, trying to convince us that we're not nearly as bad as we think we are. I guess 'cause of all the anorexia and bulimia that they tend to deal with. I think a lot of therapists "get into the business" on the coattails of food-related psych issues. And they just transfer the whole body image self-image thing all across the board.
At least, that's been my experience and observation.
In your case(s) it could be different, but still -- the whole "pretty" thing is a double-whammy. Not that it's any easier for folks who are otherwise gifted. It's not just easy all-round, sometimes.
<sigh>
I think you are correct. I'm quite sure that she thinks that I would be insulted if she confirmed my AS self-diagnosis. She assumes that I just want a pat on the head and to be told I'm normal.
29 Jul 2008, 8:36 pm
